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Thanks mish.

As I posted above last week, I can take this back to court, and we are right where we left off, kids in the judge's chamber. Do I want that? No, same as then. But, they realize more and more every day, what's right adn what's wrong.

I cried with them so hard last night because I was not the 'perfect father', but who is? Yeah, there's the 'great one's' and my cousin 2x4'd me that even though I was strict, I was one, and still am.

Someone needs to just set XW straight. I did not do it to mean or start anything, but I told the boys, they have voices, if they are that unhappy, THEY need to speak up.

I was set up, I lost my fight no thanks to her and her father, and collaborate of those who stood to benefit from me being 'gone'.

I need to nap now. I haven't cried so hard, nor spat blood in so long, probably a year, no make it a year, I WILL NOT let her or that POS pull me down like this again. Oh, yeah, they even made it a point to drive by dinner with myself and boys and make stupid faces out the car window, real mature huh?


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Dday))) <--- putting my arm around Dday's shoulder>

Man, I am sorry about your S's. Your ex is so messed up and they're the ones suffering the consequences.

Kids are always the victims in these family break-ups. Always. But the WAS's are just too blind in their selfishness to recognize it.

I agree with what others suggest. Document everything and start moving towards taking full custody of your kids. Holding a child's adopted status over their heads is child-abuse.

Hang in there, bro'.


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Originally Posted By: NoCodeBlues
. Holding a child's adopted status over their heads is child-abuse.


heh, her lawyer didn't seem to think so. That was the first fire shot in court.


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Originally Posted By: NoCodeBlues

Kids are always the victims in these family break-ups. Always.


I did my VERY best to insure them, despite the differnces and the way things are, I love them, and even went so far as to say 'mom loves you very much too'.

I don't know, they are in a bad, bad place.

I DO ned to nap now, slept like junk, couldn't go to work, and I ahve a list of things to do.

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L's are paid pirhanas, and D L's are the worst of the lot! Their job is to rip you apart little tiny piece by little tiny piece until you are nothing but a pile of mushy bits.

Dylan, start doing some research into the family court in your area. Find out which judges are most sympathetic to fathers, if any of the judges volunteer with Big brothers or Boys and Girls clubs, etc. Get the info in order, get a L, get them to petition to get the right judge assigned to the case and take back control!

She seriously drove by and made faces out of the car window at you and the kids? Good GOD! What an idiot!


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I did the research last week. The judge I had, is 'pro-father' and he sequestioned me three times to make sure I wanted to 'bow out'. And he'll be the one we see if it goes back.

Yep, s11 was the first one to point out how moroic they are for doing that.


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I guess I just don't understand then why the custody situation ended up the way it did. I'm sure you had your reasons for 'bowing out'.

On a lighter note.......how 'bout them Packers? grin


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Originally Posted By: dday101798
Originally Posted By: NoCodeBlues
. Holding a child's adopted status over their heads is child-abuse.


heh, her lawyer didn't seem to think so. That was the first fire shot in court.
I agree. I bet even her L agrees. He was paid to say that basically. Only way someone could say something like that. Yuck!

I'm sorry you're going through the wringer. I'm ready for the next phase, head-shaving or whatever....

I do think you should start recording some of this stuff down just in case. If stuff doesn't get better, then it could be helpful.


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Well, all this apparently has started to take it's toll hard on me.

When I woke up from my nap yesterday afternoon, a numb tingling in my left fingers I noticed the past few days turned into my entire arm. Working indirectly in the medical field I did some on line pre-diagnosis, everywhich scinerio only got 2 questions into it and came up proceed for emergency medical attention immediately.

So when my cousin got home from work it was off to the ER. Long story short, they cleared me of my biggest fear of a heart related problem as it runs both sides of family, although my blood pressure was ridiculously high by my standard as I've never had high pressure. They shrugged that off and say it' more a damamged nerve, neurological problem resulting in the partial paralysis I'm experiencing.

Had a couple of MRI's done that came back clean as far pinched or constricted merves (not bad, but also not good), put me on a anti-inflamatory to see if it gets better and as they may have missed something. But in the long term, see a general practicioner for at least bi-weekly checks and schedule a neurologist immediately for further review.

Well, now as of this mornign my left cheek bone and ear have started to tingle, just great. So long as the leg doesn't start, that's when they said pack a bag and head back to the ER.

Of course, XW could give 2 turds. Her attitutde was as splended as ever. She of all people should know, I don't go to the doctor unless I HAVE to. And even then, it takes a lot to get me to go. Oh, maybe that had to do with the kids stating no-body did jack for her birthday but order a pizza.


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Ok....devil's advocate here.....should she give a crap? XW....that says it all. Unless you had a heart attack should she care? Probably not. The D said it all unfortunately.

Now, we on the other hand do care! That does sound like some sort of nero misfire. I had a similar problem about 6 months ago but it was from stress. Every nerve in the right side of my body spasmed and it took several days of bed rest to relax it away. I have no med insurance so I wouldn't go to the Dr since it was obvious it wasn't a stroke but according to a friend of mine who is a nurse she said that steroids would have taken care of the problem within a day.

Be very careful with your stress levels. Take care!!!


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