K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

25,

I am also not interested in baiting anyone. That serves no purpose and thwarts any and all help people offer.

Kevin

[K4D]

So it looks like I have managed to pull together a local group for people here in the Dallas area that are DBing. So far it is me, FaithfulH, IRMAC, SoCo, Fightin4mywife and I am trying to figure out how to get hold of goalie who lives in Richardson and who has only posted one time on this site.

Anyone else that wants to join that is here in the area, please let me know and we will make contact.

This is going to be a great group as we all know it is tough and can be lonely sometimes when you don't have a real people support group.

Kevin

[K4D]

Also Jon2911 is in. Hopefully this can really help everyone out.

Kevin

[MrBond]

"I also know that I have nothing to offer W compared to the other guys that she is taking up with aka looks and higher salaries. I guess that is why I sought God for help in this. The problem is I relied to much on God and not enough on me. God isn't going to help change my situation until I complete the work in changing me."

Even after all this time, you still don't get it. It's NOT about the money or the looks. If it was, you wouldn't have been married to her in the first place. By this statement, you're looking at changing your looks and money sitch.

Geez you really haven't addressed her other concerns. She never mentioned your looks or money. Most of it is stuff are conclusions that YOU arrived at. Not what she said.

Stop working to get her back and just concentrate on you.

[K4D]

Stuck,

Part of it is the money. She has mentioned the money on more than one occasion. She told me she couldn't see dating someone that only makes what I make.

Kevin

[25yearsmlc]

K4 you said yourself, way back when, that this "new" job was just temporary until you could find something better, (professionally AND financially). SO is there any movement toward you finding better work?
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[K4D]

25,

There hasn't been much come my way that is better right now. It is still kind of a hard market.

By the way, I am currently reading "The Power Of A Praying Husband". It is good in that it also shows that change must come from within me first. And it teaches you how to pray with an unselfish heart.

I also picked up sheparding a childs heart that was recommended from my C. I am going to start that book next.

I am thinking I need to reread divorce remedy again also.

Kevin

[TrentC]

By the way, I am currently reading "The Power Of A Praying Husband". It is good in that it also shows that change must come from within me first.

Interesting. I don't think anyone here has thought about it in those terms before...

And it teaches you how to pray with an unselfish heart.

Good luck with that.

[K4D]

Ya, I know. I suppose I had that one coming. Just trying to read stuff and continue to learn.

I guess I got so caught up in thinking if I pray enough that God will just change her mind at some point and all will be good. Was ridiculous of me. He will speak to her, but it is up to her as to whether or not she will accept anything he says to her.

I will still pray none the less and ask for Gods will be done. I have my kids again this week.

I am mentally working very hard to try and eliminate controlling and manipulative thoughts from my mind in anything I do.

Learning and actions are such a slow process for me in this whole relationship world. I frusturate myself that I don't apply learned knowledge faster and better.

Kevin

[K4D]

25,

I agree with detachment now. What a fool I was to think that God would just change her mind without me taking charge of me.

I won't be making anymore comments about unconditional love. Detachment doesn't mean you don't still love them, it just means you have accepted the fact that right now you still have a life to live and have to make something of it.

Kevin