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#1856242 - 10/15/09 02:51 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
I did apologize to her. I don't know that it makes any difference at all. But I did none the less. It looks like we will be discussing the holidays here soon. It will be interesting to see how that plays out.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856244 - 10/15/09 02:55 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Anyways, yes. OM #2 has been confirmed. It is frusturating. I wonder how long that R will last. They are taking trips together.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856251 - 10/15/09 03:00 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Back to square one again.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856252 - 10/15/09 03:02 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Registered: 06/13/07
Posts: 1164
It's called a relapse Kev. If you were still going to AA you would know that. And I'm not talking occasionally. You need a routine regimen.

Why can't you be honest with yourself?

You are an ADDICT. Get the help you need so you can safely move on.

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#1856262 - 10/15/09 03:28 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Please get over it with the AA. What does the AA have to do with me and my W getting into an argument about OM #2?

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856264 - 10/15/09 03:30 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
W griped me out a couple of times before we finally got into it about OM #2.

It was funny how as we got closer to this dinner tonight, tension just really started rising.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856266 - 10/15/09 03:31 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
PMA_Baby! Offline
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Registered: 06/13/07
Posts: 1164
If you dont know then that is one of your biggest problems.

Come on man! We've been over this. You are still demostrating addictive behaviors in pining for your w.

You need to learn how to deal with this addictive personality in order for you to move on. Alcohol is only 10% of your problem.

Keep on working on you.

If you love her let her go that is what she is asking for. Once you show her that "true love" who knows what she may do.


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#1856269 - 10/15/09 03:31 PM K4D Sucking #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
That subject line is much more accurate than the one before.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1856271 - 10/15/09 03:33 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
Virtually_Handsome Offline
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Registered: 09/14/06
Posts: 13424
Loc: AZ
Originally Posted By: K4D
Just as I thought, W canceled on dinner tonight.

To be fair, I'd say you canceled when you called her a whore.
Originally Posted By: K4D
W griped me out a couple of times before we finally got into it about OM #2.

It was funny how as we got closer to this dinner tonight, tension just really started rising.

Kevin

Exactly why I didn't think it was a good idea. You are not ready. And for that matter, neither is she.
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Jeff
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Me-49
D 11/30/09
S12,16,21,22
Current:Wandering Poster 56-Take a step that is new...
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#1856277 - 10/15/09 03:39 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Virtually_Handsome]
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Registered: 09/07/09
Posts: 3068
Loc: Illinois, United States
A friend of mine gave me a book when I moved out, "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolles. One chapter dealt with relationships. His point was that many people are not actually in love with their spouses, they are addicted to being in a relationship.

From what I'm reading, it doesn't sound there's much love at all between you two. Try to find out if you really love your W or if you are just addicted to being married.

I'm trying to figure that out. The longer I'm away from her and the more I rebuild my life the less I miss her. I miss my daughters tremendously but not W. At least not the one of the last three years.
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