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It's great that you will be doing a dinner together. Make it all about your D. Do not engage your W in any deep topics. If she brings any up just return the conversation to something about your D. Tell her anything else will have to come up another time, because its D's day.

Shine Kevin. I know you can.


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I already blew it. Tensions got high by some unreal reason tonight and what the heck ever. She got pissy with me and I said well hopefully you are being faithful knowing that OM #2 is now in the picture and she hung up. UGGG!!!!!!!!

I hate her freakin guts, yet I love that stupid a$$ soul.

UGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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What a bad night. I totally ripped her apart. I am so sick of the whore situation from her. She knows it to.

I think this marriage is dead. Why bother continuing on?

Kevin


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D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
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Still separated...
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Well that was quick. So what happened?


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Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

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Ummm, what were you hoping to achieve, Kevin? Did you expect her to agree with you? I'd have to say that for someone who claims to want to save their marriage, you have a pretty good knack for sabotaging it.

I think you need to decide what you want. Not what you think you should want, or what you think someone expects you to want. What do you want? Because right now, your words here don't match your actions, or your words to her.

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Originally Posted By: K4D
Why bother continuing on?

Kevin


Continuing on with what exactly? Having a good life, taking care of yourself? Or was that just a covert contract to get your W back.


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Just as I thought, W canceled on dinner tonight.

C-Bart, what I meant was why bother continuing on hoping for a future with my W at some point. She is just so frusturating sometimes.

VH, I know what I want. I want my family back together. It doesn't mean I don't get frusturated sometimes.

OM #2 in the picture. What kind of loser is this? What kind of worthless loser steps into someone else's M and family and helps further tear it apart?

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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What a bad night. I totally ripped her apart. I am so sick of the whore situation from her. She knows it to.

Striiiiiike. Didnt you make the mistake of calling your ex-wife a whore once before? In case your daddy didnt tell you, you never ever never ever never ever never ever never ever never ever never call a woman a whore.

You know what she told all her friends about you after that comment, don't you?

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I think this marriage is dead.

what in your interactions with your wife over the past 10 months has led you to believe otherwise?

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I just sent her a text saying dinner tomorrow night was my idea so I will pick up the bill. Lets just all have a great time.

I left it at that.


you really should have! Why did you wreck a perfectly doable co-parenting situation for your children? Striiiiiike. TWO

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Kevin,
Just a thought. You may want to apologize to your W for talking to her in a demeaning and disrespectful manner. Don't explain, just apologize for the way you acted/talked to her. Do it for yourself so you can move on from this incident and get back to working on yourself.

Stay away for a while and focus, focus, focus on yourself. Do that until you get to a point were you don't have that giant pit in your stomach every time you think of your W. Do it until you don't wake up in the morning thinking about her and/or your M.

Then and only then re-engage your W.

You've got this!


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How not to DB. Yup, thats me. I can't seem to keep from taking detours in this. No matter how much I work on myself, I seem to keep finding a way to screw up progress if there was any with my W. I surpress my feelings about the OM and then it comes out when my W starts critisizing me for something. And then I am the bad guy, not this loser who has no respect for M and families. Nope, I am the bad guy because I didn't show my W respect when I got tired of listening to her yell at me.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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