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#1855744 - 10/14/09 03:32 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
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I'm going to go against the general group and say ask for the dinner. DB-ing aside, this is a special moment for your D. Let it be about her.

If you are doing it to get together with your W, then forget it. But if you are there solely for the purpose of supporting your D and congratulating her for her efforts, then ask. Only you would know if you can be distant enough to act accordingly.


Stuck,

I have really been handling myself quite well. I haven't asked W about doing anything together with the kids in some time. I think I will hold off here. I can always take D11 to celebrate Sunday night when I get her and D7 back for the week. There is also a good chance that W's mother will be there and that may kill any sort of celebration afterwards if they already have plans.

Probably best to just to not go forward with it. I think I will just show up and see the performance. If things look good during that time, maybe I will. But I need to monitor whether there is even a shot at an after performance dinner celebration with the 4 of us.

I appreciate the input though,

Kevin


Edited by K4D (10/14/09 03:37 PM)
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855748 - 10/14/09 03:37 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
PMA_Baby! Offline
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Registered: 06/13/07
Posts: 1164
You sound great. Nice job! We all knew you could do it.

Keep it up! Keep going to AA. Keep taking the girls to counseling. Keep working on your PMA and GAL. And if you happen to make some new "friends". Just use it as opportunity to learn more about yourself.

God Speed. PMA

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#1855765 - 10/14/09 03:57 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
I guess on the one hand, I could send W a text saying "Do you want to do an after performance dinner celebration for D11 tomorrow?"

I will think it through some more.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855776 - 10/14/09 04:15 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
JTJ Offline
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Registered: 08/25/09
Posts: 138
Loc: KY
Kevin,

Keep up the good work! Try to find out ahead of time when you will be spending time around wife and kids and set goals or plan ahead. Buy a new outfit, maybe some new cologne, Set a goal to lose 5lbs or workout 10 times between now and then. You get the picture. Hey everyone I'm Galing here!!!

Pray, hope, and don't worry!

JJ
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H:37
W:34
D11,S8,S6
Together 19 years
M:10
Bomb:4/09

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#1855781 - 10/14/09 04:21 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: JTJ]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Stuck,

I decided to send the text asking about tomorrow night after the celebration. W texted back and said sure. We are now texting about where to eat after. I have to admit, I am surprised she agreed to it. That will be special for D11. Thanks Stuck.

JTJ,

I have been buying new clothes, got a hair cut, am working out and losing weight, wearing cologne. I am GALing.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855793 - 10/14/09 04:28 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
W asked who was paying for it. I said I thought we would split the dinner bill, but if you can't afford it, I will pick it up.

Should I just offer to pay for the whole thing?

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855805 - 10/14/09 04:40 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
CityGirl Offline
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Registered: 04/19/09
Posts: 2612
I would offer to pay for you and your kids. If she cant afford to pay for just her share then I guess she is out of luck and wont be able to join in.

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#1855813 - 10/14/09 04:46 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: CityGirl]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Quote:
I would offer to pay for you and your kids. If she cant afford to pay for just her share then I guess she is out of luck and wont be able to join in.


I appreciate what you are saying. But I do want this to be special for D11. And having both her parents go to dinner with her would mean a lot to her and D7. So if I have to pick up the bill, it is worth it.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1855814 - 10/14/09 04:47 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
Tomato Offline
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Registered: 01/03/08
Posts: 4058
Loc: Northeast
kevin ..how are you buddy?
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debut thread

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#1855815 - 10/14/09 04:48 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
CityGirl Offline
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Registered: 04/19/09
Posts: 2612
Then why did you ask? LOL! If you knew what you wanted to do were you just looking for some validation?

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