K4D Rising #4

[ppenton]

FYI: I have ordered a few CDs from Rejoice and they have been very helpful.

GOD DOES SPEAK - ARE YOU LISTENING?
STOP LOOKING AT YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES - There is Victory in Jesus
THE BATTLE FOR YOUR MIND AND YOUR THOUGHTS!
LORD TEACH ME TO PRAY AND SPEAK THE WORD & YOUR SPOUSE IS A SLAVE TO SIN
LORD CHANGE MY SPOUSE'S HEART

and a few others, I keep them in my car and listen to them when driving to work. Now, I have been listening to K-LOVE on the radio.

I'm sure I'll be buying some more as they have helped me tremendously.

[K4D]

W has added previous OM to her FB page. It is a picture of OM and his W. I guess that says they are still in contact.

That hurts alot.

Kevin

[K4D]

I had forgotten all the pain I felt back then. Seeing that picture now brings back all that pain again.

That really hurts.

Kevin

[volleydog]

Kevin that's why you shouldn't look at her FB page...You know that, right?

[Orich]

My W took me off her friends list, so I can't look there. I never really looked anyway, but my sister had called and asked why she had taken my whole family off.
Funny, I turned her on to Facebook. I had a page first, then told her about it. I quickly lost interest, she took to it like a kid to candy.

[K4D]

I think I am torn on what to do. Do I go ahead and tell OM's W what has been going on and what may still be going on or flaring back up again. My W is talking about going camping again next weekend and then going to a town about an hour and a half away again. Ironic the timing of these things all of a sudden again and all of a sudden he is on her FB page.

If I tell his W and she D's him, that frees him up to be with my W and that also breaks apart a second family possibly. If I don't tell her, this A possibly, probably keeps on going.

Plus if I tell his W, then my W becomes extremely angry with me again and probably hurries up and files for D. She hasn't refiled yet.

I don't know if this guy has guts or he is an idiot after I told him to break off contact with my W or I would let his W know.

I know I need to pray about this as I am just not sure what the answer is here.

Kevin

[K4D]

Will anyone advise?

Kevin

[volleydog]

FWIW Kev, I say just let it go. You, like me, are not in a situation like some where we can say, and it do any good, that we won't live in an open M. I don't think it will do you any good...But...I am torn on whether the OM's W should know...

[K4D]

I agree. I am not in a position where it would make a change for the better if I let his W know. Thats good advise VD.

Thanks,

Kevin

[missmyfriend]

Kevin, your W on FB and having the OM as a friend is one of your giants. You are giving it too much attention. (I am saying that to myself for issues I am facing). Your focus should be on your Ws transformation, i.e. that she has a desire to know God. Praying that a godly woman will come into her life and help her realize that happiness is Him first and then realize the joy God has given her in a family.

Remember when God told Moses to send the twelve spies to the land of Canaan and the reports that came back from 10 of the spies said that the land was incredible but the people there were strong and would defeat them. Joshua and Caleb came back and reported that the land was wonderful and that God would help them take possession of it. Since the rest of the Israelites listened to the other ten, they were forced to wander the desert for 40 years. Only Joshua and Caleb were allowed to go into Canaan.

Kevin, what is God telling you? Are you listening? (I ask these same questions regarding my situation all the time).

While sometimes it seems like we need to be forceful and take charge of a situation, are we doing this under our own power or under God's direction.

Pray, pray and pray some more. Be cautious and vigilant that it is God talking to you.