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I will say we have been together every night for a week at one place or another. Tonight may be our first night apart due to logistics...all of my stuff is one place and all of hers is at another.


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Originally Posted By: wanttobebetter
Still going pretty good. I do not like the feeling of being in limbo though. I have some pretty tough times trying to decide on what to do. I feel like there is another shoe waiting somewhere to drop and we are going every which way now seeing as how we have an apt and a house. She is aware of this and the problems that it causes (kids are always wondering where we are staying??).

I love this woman and really want things to work out but I just do not have the security of a real relationship right now and that is what I really, really want. With all of this going on it makes it tough sometimes to focus on everything else.

While we are a good place in rebuilding our R, the uncertainity of it all is always right there.


It seems you and I are in the exact same place. Uncanny how similiar our sitches are.


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You actually are in a decent spot as long as you don't push and work on improving yourself and finding the spark that drew you together in the first place.

I've been out five months now, my W says she's 100 percent sure she wants a divorce and would have filed if she had the money.

So there's no togetherness, no waffling, it's now strictly business. My mountain is a lot higher than yours. You should have feelings of hope.


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Good luck with everything. I just read the entire thread and am new. I commend you for sticking this entire thing out so far. The past couple of months must have been tough. I did not understand until last week what it really meant to go through something like this. Last week after my ILYBIANILWU talk I easily had the worst few days of my life. I've never hurt so bad in my life. I'll be watching your thread from now on and keeping you in my thoughts.


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NAGL - It has been tough. In all honestly it feels like a blur. You almost lose concept of time and reference points.

The whole process is tough for different reasons. Right now it is the thought of putting myself back into our R when I was ready to let go. It is worth it? Yes. But that does not mean I feel very vunerable and like it could be all taken away from me at any time. I know the ups and downs that go with all of this. I would love to feel "safe" again. I read the word patience on here all the time and I guess that is the only thing I can count on. I have had a lot of positives lately.


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We didn't stay together last time purely because she did not have the right stuff at the house last night. She called me before bed, texted me and also sent me a facebook message. I talked to her for a little bit this morning and talked her Mom into watching the kids Fri night. We are going to have a date night that night.

She also went to the C yesterday and he said she appeared to be doing well on Lamictal. He is going to keep her on it and she talks to a therapist next week. This process should be interesting.

Actually the space last night was nice. I feel like she is missing me when I'm not there and this is good. I really like being with her but a little time here and there might do us some good. Just my thoughts.


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I have been reading other people's threads and I feel like I am in a good place right now. I have a lot to be hopeful for even though it is a long road.


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Yes. At least you are talking and planning dates. The only thing W and I are planning are holidays apart. I'm going to propose a low-cost divorce some time this month.


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Originally Posted By: wanttobebetter
I have been reading other people's threads and I feel like I am in a good place right now. I have a lot to be hopeful for even though it is a long road.


Yes you are in a good place. Be thankful and keep up the good work.


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I'm trying...had a good weekend and talked about trying to move back into together in the future. I get anxious sometimes and realize I need to keep it slow...for the both of us.


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