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#1854580 - 10/12/09 08:53 PM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: Hope4us]
Tostada Offline
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What does she mean by 'drop it'? Not contact her anymore? Either this guy is a serial cheater or she is in shock. What's the over/under when she calls you back.

You don't need to contact her. But I will tell you me and OMW still occaisionally talk to give each other support and to help make it difficult on them.
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#1854611 - 10/12/09 09:38 PM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: Tostada]
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My bet is she's a doormat, and this isn't her first time.

Puppy
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#1854771 - 10/13/09 07:20 AM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: Puppy Dog Tails]
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She doesnt want to get involved with you. Probably figures you will want to meet for coffee and talk. YUCK!

Like puppy said. This isnt the first time. If it was, she'd be in complete shock then be more interested in details on what you know.

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#1854792 - 10/13/09 08:23 AM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: Steve McQueen]
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When OMW said "let's just drop it", I took it as her not wanting me to contact her about it anymore...which is fine. She sounded very upset (naturally)..maybe a little shocked...& I got the impression she didn't want to discuss her M with a complete stranger (me).

I have no idea what's going on w/ W & OM right now. I'm sure OM must have let my W know what I did. W is hiding it well because she hasn't reacted or said anything to me about it.
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#1855463 - 10/14/09 08:51 AM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: etrain]
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Still no reaction from my W. But she did attempt to contact OM last night while I was out...sent him an IM through her work account.
Nothing else new to report. My W is a brilliant actress.
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#1855490 - 10/14/09 09:41 AM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: etrain]
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How do you know all this? What intel do you have in place?

Puppy
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#1855498 - 10/14/09 09:58 AM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: Puppy Dog Tails]
etrain Offline
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Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
How do you know all this? What intel do you have in place?

Puppy


keylogger.
she accessed her work account through our home PC.


Edited by etrain (10/14/09 09:58 AM)
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#1855576 - 10/14/09 12:00 PM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: etrain]
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Very good. Make sure to save/get screenshots, where appropriate.

You sound like you're doing much better.
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#1855614 - 10/14/09 12:48 PM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: etrain]
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Registered: 01/05/08
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Originally Posted By: etrain
Still no reaction from my W. But she did attempt to contact OM last night while I was out...sent him an IM through her work account.
Nothing else new to report. My W is a brilliant actress.


Perhaps she has not yet confronted him with what she knows as she has to make the same decisions we have all had to with respect to how SHE wants to handle it in her own M... Not clear to me that your W is hiding anything (unless you have recon that tells you that OMW has confronted OM)... FWIW...
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#1855635 - 10/14/09 01:10 PM Re: Confronting the OM's W - pros & cons [Re: AlexEN]
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OMW contacted me & said she has discussed the A with her H.
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