Glad to hear that C has finally realised how much you are struggling Nell! Im beginning to wonder too if it might be worth seeing someone as it seems H has pulled back into alien land big time now. Im sure we feel the same, the fact we have been dropped in the horse poo is bad enough but the fact that no-one other than us on here seems to give a horse poo either is really starting to drain me. Our H's seem to be living the life of riley while we are left to clear up the mess behind them! There really isnt enough explitives for how angry I am getting too, so maybe youre just a bit ahead in the process of this all, is it shock, followed by action, followed by anger, followed by revenge or is resignation first I just dont know.. huge hugs Im along side you hun!
There is no problem meeting somewhere other than home but just make sure you don't add anything to make it sound like you are pursuing like bringing food or drinks like you are having a picnic. Either way, whether he comes to the house or you meet elsewhere you have to keep control of any anger you have toward him as that will kill it again. As much as you might want to scream at him and strangle him, you have to hold it back and remain calm.