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#1850849 - 10/05/09 11:25 PM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
ppenton Offline
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Registered: 01/26/09
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((((((((Nell)))))))
I responded to your post on my thread.
I hope it helps you somewhat.
If you need anything else, let me know. - PP
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#1850898 - 10/06/09 03:08 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: ppenton]
Lost Rabbit Offline
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Registered: 08/26/09
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Only just coming to Nell, will try and read through later just wanted to say hi!
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#1850936 - 10/06/09 08:24 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Lost Rabbit]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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Went to see C tonight. She's worried about me. So much so that she has given me her email address (with her C hat off, as she told me)!

Said it was unusual to see no progress in someone after 7 sessions and feels that I am sliding backwards, constantly. No sh*t Sherlock! Finally some one is hearing my desperate screams ...
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#1850946 - 10/06/09 08:48 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
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Glad to hear that C has finally realised how much you are struggling Nell! Im beginning to wonder too if it might be worth seeing someone as it seems H has pulled back into alien land big time now. Im sure we feel the same, the fact we have been dropped in the horse poo is bad enough but the fact that no-one other than us on here seems to give a horse poo either is really starting to drain me. Our H's seem to be living the life of riley while we are left to clear up the mess behind them! There really isnt enough explitives for how angry I am getting too, so maybe youre just a bit ahead in the process of this all, is it shock, followed by action, followed by anger, followed by revenge or is resignation first I just dont know.. huge hugs Im along side you hun!


Edited by Lost Rabbit (10/06/09 08:49 AM)
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#1850957 - 10/06/09 09:00 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
Lost Rabbit Offline
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Nothing yet Nell, Im going to put the whole lot in there just quickly for you to double check it!
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#1850962 - 10/06/09 09:02 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Lost Rabbit]
Lost Rabbit Offline
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Bingo mission accomplished!
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#1850965 - 10/06/09 09:04 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
Lost Rabbit Offline
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Yep got it!
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#1850969 - 10/06/09 09:09 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Lost Rabbit]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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Jumping to alternate burrow now ... closing down here for the night but catch you over in the other meadow for some carrots before bedtime??!!
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WAH 43; W 47
M 16; T 17
Cats 15 & 6
Bomb 27/05/09
ow 28/06/09

"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

Started counselling 17/08/09

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#1850977 - 10/06/09 09:15 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
Lost Rabbit Offline
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Youre gonna have to change your name to Cryptic Cate at this rate lol!
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#1851397 - 10/06/09 07:30 PM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Lost Rabbit]
girlfromoz Offline
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Registered: 08/05/09
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Hi Nell

There is no problem meeting somewhere other than home but just make sure you don't add anything to make it sound like you are pursuing like bringing food or drinks like you are having a picnic. Either way, whether he comes to the house or you meet elsewhere you have to keep control of any anger you have toward him as that will kill it again. As much as you might want to scream at him and strangle him, you have to hold it back and remain calm.
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