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#1828347 - 08/29/09 01:11 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: harpo]
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Thanks Harpo, I handled it alright. I'm getting used to it. It just adds an element of second-guessing as I am dropping the rope.

BTW- H wants to know if we can have brunch together this weekend when I drop off the kids...
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#1828348 - 08/29/09 01:19 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
In the car, S9 asked if H and I are still married... crazy and S6 whimpered that he wants daddy to come home...tough stuff. But it is what it is. I honestly don't know what to say.


Tell them the truth. That Mommy and Daddy are going through some difficult times right now but that you both love them very very much and will always be there mother and father and will always be there for them. Be strong for them and you smile
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#1828349 - 08/29/09 01:23 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: RedSoxFan]
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Thanks. I'm sorry that I said I didn't know what to say...I know what to say but I don't know how I feel about the question of are we married...

I'm getting used to handling the topic overall.

And, H wanting brunch together? I guess, no can do.
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#1828358 - 08/29/09 01:40 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
And, H wanting brunch together? I guess, no can do.


Well, I'm guessing the experts here are going to say no to the brunch.

I think of brunch or coffee as kind of neutral venues that seem like a great place to have safe conversation.
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#1828361 - 08/29/09 01:44 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: RedSoxFan]
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Originally Posted By: RedSoxFan
Well, I'm guessing the experts here are going to say no to the brunch.


A&K I have to admit that while I was slowly coming around over a 10 month period, it was the OM and fear of losing W forever that put the fear of god in me and lit a fire under me like nothing I've ever experienced. If we had chugged along over those many months having brunch, etc. maybe I wouldn't have had my makeup call!? Seems like there's something to this method.
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#1828363 - 08/29/09 01:45 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: RedSoxFan]
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It is with the kids...I have only one day without the kids until Wednesday so I really should take it for myself.
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#1828364 - 08/29/09 01:47 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Definitely skip brunch and take the me time!
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#1828365 - 08/29/09 01:50 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: RedSoxFan]
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Originally Posted By: RedSoxFan
Originally Posted By: RedSoxFan
Well, I'm guessing the experts here are going to say no to the brunch.


A&K I have to admit that while I was slowly coming around over a 10 month period, it was the OM and fear of losing W forever that put the fear of god in me and lit a fire under me like nothing I've ever experienced. If we had chugged along over those many months having brunch, etc. maybe I wouldn't have had my makeup call!? Seems like there's something to this method.


Thank you. I have to remember that this M is already dead and that any remote possibility that we could be together would require him to pretty much get where you are. I doubt his ego will allow it...so, onward.
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#1828382 - 08/29/09 02:14 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: aliveandkicking]
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It isn't "no" to brunch...

It is "can't do" brunch... already have plans..
"Maybe some other time."

make sure you have plans before you answer him.
we wouldn't want to lie to him now, would we?

busy busy busy.......

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#1828384 - 08/29/09 02:15 PM Re: A New Normal...getting there. [Re: gucci loafer]
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Can plans be laying on my couch watching tv for a change? wink

I have plans tomorrow night but I am spent.

Actually, I will probably tackle my to do list while I don't have the kiddos.
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