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#1843814 - 09/24/09 12:25 AM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Butterfly1]
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Thanks I intend to come back. Been working out like crazy but had a set back on that yesterday. I am going to check out the WAS forum as well. I am at a point that I am willing to do anything that will help. It hard because it feels so much like you are not important. It is even harder when the person you loved so much looks like they are happier without you. I guess I had better get used to. I miss holding her at night and her paying attention to me. I miss being home period. I feel like it was like I never existed. Like I am forgotten.
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#1843848 - 09/24/09 03:12 AM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Butterfly1]
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Hope,

Yeah I was in my Zen Master mode the other day thinking about things about your sitch and mine. laugh But to answer your question, here is the full text of what Bruce Lee said:

"Be like water making its way through cracks. Do not be assertive, but adjust to the object, and you shall find a way round or through it. If nothing within you stays rigid, outward things will disclose themselves.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water my friend."

Make any sense? grin
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#1844094 - 09/24/09 11:52 AM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: BigJohn]
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BJ = I love it! Will do. Thanks, Zen Master.

MOngoose - you'll find every LBS on this forum feels or has felt the way you do. You'll just have to go through the feelings and start living life for you.
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#1844113 - 09/24/09 12:10 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Butterfly1]
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PS - I was worried that there was an OW - because H's car has been absent from his parking place on his off nights (H lives right near by, it's easy to see).

But he told me he just has been parking in a new parking place in the shade.

So relieved.
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#1844121 - 09/24/09 12:16 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Butterfly1]
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I was listening to a Christian radio program this morning. They were talking about "being like water" too.

Their point was similar but states something like "We may not be able to see God's plan, but need to comform to the opportunities that he presents to us. We can't change his plan, but adjust to it...like water conforms to the vessle it is poured in."
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#1844122 - 09/24/09 12:17 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Energizer Bunny]
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Another one I hear recently was "Be The Duck."

I had to ask what that meant.

It means let the water just roll right off of your back.
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#1844308 - 09/24/09 02:47 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Energizer Bunny]
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Quack quack = drip drip....
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#1844326 - 09/24/09 02:54 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Butterfly1]
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All of this Water/Duck talk makes me want to go boating...
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#1844401 - 09/24/09 04:15 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Energizer Bunny]
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ooh me too. what kind of boating do you do? I live where there is both a bay and river delta. I've done sailing, fishing boating, and kayaking. Time to get back on the water!
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#1844558 - 09/24/09 09:22 PM Re: I'm new wondering if this works... [Re: Butterfly1]
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I live in the Great Lakes State. Where there's water, I've been on it.

We sold our boat (power boat..little runabout) and I bought a Jeep.

I love the water. Need a new boat.
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