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#1846060 - 09/28/09 12:58 PM Re: So now what? [Re: Mach1]
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I think I just need sleep.
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#1846067 - 09/28/09 01:13 PM Re: So now what? [Re: mountain_west]
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Hey Mach, what up?

MW, I, too, have had the same questions. Most times I think that my h is not in a MLC.

And Mach is going easier on you when you ask that question than he did on me. Just preparing you - LOL!

In the end I realized MLC or not, I will stand until I cant anymore. I will stand because I love him, because I made a promise before God, because I know no other way right now.

Do I believe there is such a thing as MLC? Absolutely. Does it matter if my h is in one? Not anymore.

My decision is the same.

About the sleeping thing. Dont let that go too long. I know firsthand the havoc it could wreak. Could be depression, anxiety.

When we are going through all of this, we are so tightly wound and waiting for the other shoe to drop and we are trying so hard to process and keep it together that it affects us physically, too.

So, let your doctor know you arent sleeping. Find ways to relax 30 minutes before bedtime. Try to release everything from you mind before you get into bed. Make sure there isnt a tv on and that the room is dark.

Hang in there, Sweetie. This is all part of the journey. You are doing really well.

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#1846072 - 09/28/09 01:18 PM Re: So now what? [Re: mountain_west]
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Originally Posted By: mountain_west
I think I just need sleep.


Hey B, Doin okay...for now...

MW.....NYQUILL !!!!

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#1846081 - 09/28/09 01:37 PM Re: So now what? [Re: Mach1]
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Does tequila count as a NYQUILL substitute?

BM ... falling asleep is rarely a problem. I just can't STAY asleep. frown And both he and Jim have beat me given me the appropriate beatings over this before. smile
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#1846093 - 09/28/09 01:57 PM Re: So now what? [Re: mountain_west]
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Yeah, I hear ya on the staying asleep. That is anxiety, my friend.

As far as you trying to figure out if this is MLC or not. Let me save you some time.

It doesnt matter. Really and truly. It doesnt matter. If you are hoping it is MLC because then there is a chance she will come out of this, you are standing in the way of your own journey because then you are looking to someone or something else to move this along.

And it cant be moved along by anyone or anything but you.
When you think this way, you are looking for her to change, decide, get through the MLC.

And sorry, but, thats not how this works. So, it doesnt matter if she is MLC, ADD, or XYZ. You still have to walk this - for you.

So, stop thinking about what she is and get back to thinking about you. Who cares what the hell her problem is?

Talk to a doctor about your sleep problem, move forward in the journey and let her blow in the wind, ya know?

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#1846201 - 09/28/09 04:46 PM Re: So now what? [Re: dl443322]
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I could go all whack and explain the inner workings of the brain and how your inner thoughts come to the top of thinking when you're brain is relaxed....

But,

I've talked to you, and your brain can't be too much more relaxed bro....

Sooooo....Yes, Tequila.

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#1846207 - 09/28/09 04:56 PM Re: So now what? [Re: Mach1]
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Yes, the sleeping is anxiety. I have spent many nights falling asleep then waking up in a sweat suddenly. I also went through a really bad patch where I couldn't eat anything but crackers without throwing it back up. All anxiety. If it persists seek some help for it. Especially not sleeping will beat you down. Been there, done that. Feel for you.
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#1846332 - 09/28/09 08:00 PM Re: So now what? [Re: Mach1]
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Originally Posted By: Mach1
... how your inner thoughts come to the top of thinking when you're brain is relaxed ...


I have inner thoughts? That can't be good. wink
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#1846344 - 09/28/09 08:40 PM Re: So now what? [Re: mountain_west]
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Originally Posted By: mountain_west

I have inner thoughts? That can't be good. wink


You scare me....


Another shot ?

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#1846354 - 09/28/09 08:46 PM Re: So now what? [Re: Mach1]
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Tequila!

I suspect most, if not all of us have been there. It sux. You will find a way that works for you.

Do talk to a dr. about it though. Can't do without sleep..(damn right I'm good in bed...I can sleep for days!)

HUGS

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