Nell, your decision is right whichever way you went. It's your decision and you own it so be happy with it.
Your revised email is conciliatory. My earlier thoughts remain but Good work!
Re moving home.....is that really what's right or could you try somewhere else temporarily just as part of your new life/new chapter? Going home is safe and predictable and home will always be there! Just random thoughts but I want you to consider other options...there's a big world out there.
Thanks Cas - truth be known, I don't want to do anything - other than to wait out H and be here for him when his fog lifts. Trouble is - and the down side meanwhile - is that I am existing and not having a life, right?
I have heard your story, JCJ's and others - then I ask myself, just how long do you wait? Success, it appears, comes to very few who are here and often those who are starting from a much better standing than I am. I don't want to go home - my knee-jerk in June showed me that but then what am I doing in a country all on my own, either? I've been here for four years and not made any friends - is this what the next four years holds for me too??
I wish that I could make some decisions but right now it's about all I can manage to decide whether I want ketchup or sauce!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Thanks Dudess - I have been considering the same and I agree. I will send H the email now that we are all (relatively) happy with it! Then I go quiet again ... right??
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Nell, I'm still here but that's my choice and it still feels right at the moment but as soon as I feel it's all over it will be. How long we wait is dependant on so many things. I know H is still with ow but as she is an employee I guess it's a bit tricky anyway. I'm sure they're great friends but it really seems like a convenience thing to me, They don't live together and if H wants to spend time with me or with us as a family he does,,,,,not too concerned about her it seems.
Thanks for explaining Cas - now I can understand why you have hung on in there.
I just got a photo sent to me by text - of a woman all dressed up but sent to my work cell phone. My head started racing immediately but that's a stupid thought. H knows my work cell number but it is evidently not from him - and why would it be? I only got the phone last week so it must be meant for someone else, surely?? I am not going to start obsessing about this now, although it would be easy to do so! I shall show the picture to the girls at work on Monday and that should lay that one to rest!!
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
Oh Nell, I change day by day. I certainly know now that nc is really an easier path then being in contact. I have decided to give H some time to issue an invite and then when there's none, I'm going to tell him that the 'friendship' does not suit my needs. Hopefully when the business sells 'she' will disappear.
As for the photo, I'm thinking that since it is a work phone or could have been meant for the person who previously had the phone. You could text back and say sorry you sent it to the wrong number.
Good on you Cas - you are a lot stronger than I am but I guess that you are a good time ahead of me, too!
Yes, I'm sure that is exactly right about the photo. I'm not bothered - just good old paranoia kicking in. In a way, I was kind of hoping that it was a photo of ow as if so, H will be home any day soon - she's a right spanner bag!!
The day has been long and lonely but my own apathy has exacerbated that. I was going to go out but opted for some me time instead. Just watched some TV, hung out here, waited for some emails to come through - from anyone - and played door open/closer to the cats!
I'm off to bed shortly - it's almost 7pm and that's my time!
Catch you tomorrow. Have a good sleep Cas.
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
