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#1840399 - 09/18/09 08:18 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: aliveandkicking]
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I sent him a text that I would have the kids call him and he could tell them he'll see them in the morning and that I would not get into why, but that is just me.

He said ok. And then, "you're the boss."

This is one of those ignore situations...despite my desire to rip him a new a**hole.
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#1840405 - 09/18/09 08:28 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
I sent him a text that I would have the kids call him and he could tell them he'll see them in the morning and that I would not get into why, but that is just me.

He said ok. And then, "you're the boss."

This is one of those ignore situations...despite my desire to rip him a new a**hole.

That's definitely big girl...I thought of 5 things to say back to him in just the instant I read that. High road. You win again. Cha-ching!!
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#1840415 - 09/18/09 08:54 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: RedSoxFan]
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Well he just followed with "sorry, that wasn't for you."

more ignore.
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#1840418 - 09/18/09 09:07 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
Well he just followed with "sorry, that wasn't for you."

more ignore.

yep, but at least he's realizing when he sticks his foot up his own a$$ or is that mouth...whatev ;-)
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#1840419 - 09/18/09 09:08 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: RedSoxFan]
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did you see my response to your fixation question?

and shouldn't you bee at dinner by now?
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#1840420 - 09/18/09 09:09 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Kids called h and he asked to talk to me. I nipped it nicely. He's feeling left out I presume, however I doubt he finds it fair or atributes it to his actions. Rather, he just thinks it is petty or cruel. Mindreading here but better here than engaging with him.
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#1840423 - 09/18/09 09:15 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
Kids called h and he asked to talk to me. I nipped it nicely. He's feeling left out I presume, however I doubt he finds it fair or atributes it to his actions. Rather, he just thinks it is petty or cruel. Mindreading here but better here than engaging with him.

Silly question, but do you tell him in a plain calm voice what's going on? I know there's a history here and youve been down many paths and you are where you are for reasons known to you...just curious about the telling him thing.
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#1840440 - 09/18/09 09:44 PM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: RedSoxFan]
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Well, I will want some advice on here on what I should and shouldn't get into when we have our talk next week.

I refuse to get dragged into being mommy and lecturing and spelling it out on an individual basis. I stick to the facts. It works better. I don't take the bait.

On my way to dinner. See ya later.
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#1840565 - 09/19/09 08:56 AM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: aliveandkicking]
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How was the dinner party?
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#1840626 - 09/19/09 11:55 AM Re: Giant B*lls! [Re: RedSoxFan]
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Great. Thanks for asking.

I did really miss H. It was a family dinner, the kind we used to always come to together and observe all of the hilarity together...

I drank a wee bit and texted him, just friendly. Not something I think was a great thing to do but certainly not the end of the world. Problem is it is not sticking to my own boundary so it muddies the waters.

But, I want to sit down with him next week and go over money and logistics so I think a lot will change after that.
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