I've started posting again because I need support in the 'GAL' part of DB'ing. I have no hope that the divorce won't happen but I do have hope that I can turn my own life around.

So, I'm posting my own trials and I will include occasional 'events' with STBX only to get others insights into what goes on.

Jack once said "you can't save someone who doesn't want to be saved". Well I did stay stuck in that hole longer than necessary. I pissed off a bunch of people and dug a deeper hole of despair for myself.

I'm done flogging myself. Now I'm working on my life.

Good for you, Frank! Let us know how it goes...

STBX insight #1 your wife is crazy.

STBX insight #2 see insight #1.

Frank I believe in you.

More doing, less talking about the doing.

Frank, I seem to recall that you once had quite the active outdoor life. Have you considered getting back into some of that (maybe minus the dangerous parasail)? I took up golf shortly after the bomb and it sure is a fun and challenging sport.

Yeah, and I think that keeping my communications with her to a minimum helps me a lot. I'm angry. I've lost 2 more years of my life and I don't want to lose any more.

I may have made some mistakes, but I've been faithful to my family no matter what.

So, the warrior returns.

Yes, absolutely. My Paraglider is for sale on Craig's list. Really can't do the dangerous sports because life insurance won't pay out on them and my girls need their dad.

How much?

I almost bought one myself once for flying off mountains that I climbed. But I did some more research and found that there were a high percentage of broken bones that occur duing take off. It looks kind of like flying a kleenex.

But now there are these kite boarders that just blow my mind when I watch what they do in the Columbia River gorge by flying out over land from the water.

Broken bone = memory of a lifetime...even if it is short.

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