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It’s difficult to guage whether the NC strategy is working or not, or even if it’s been noticed. I suppose the thing to consider is whether it’s working for you? Does it improve your PMA? If so then it’s working in some way.

I’m keeping to it for another week or two and then if there’s no movement will reconsider and think what’s next. I'm going to speak to the DB counsellor first


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Hi Bonny,

I agree. I think the nc is positive for my PMA at the moment and provides me with some space until I work out what I want to do next. I'm going to keep at it for another week at least. It is still a different strategy for me so I have to give it a shot. After I see the surgeon next week I think I'll have a clearer direction on a few things as well. I want to do some stuff to the house and get some new clothes. think it's good to get this sorted while I'm out of contact.

Think I'll reconsider on a week by week basis. I'll be interested to see what DB coach says to you about it.

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Hi Cas

How are you today?

It is good I think if you give your nc another week in order to sort out a few other issues you want to, then review it later. At least that way you give yourself a bit more breathing space with just yourself and your needs to concentrate on.



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Hey Cas
I shall be watching. I feel much the same as you really and now that H wants to meet to discuss finances, I almost don't want to see him as it will put me backwards - you know what I mean? I wondered if you felt that way too?

Good luck with the surgeon!


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Hi Oz, I am feeling much better today. My voice is quite "husky" still but the sore throat appears to have gone. smile

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Yes Nell, I do know what you mean. I do feel that way. I think this has been like a challenge for me and my competitive side has come out and I'm willing myself to surpass my targets!!!

Enjoy the night, Nell.

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((((Cas))))

Have you tried the whiskey/honey/lemon remedy? It does help. Or as my mother says, maybe it doesn't but if you take enough of it, you won't care.


The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

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Morning Cas

Just thought I check in on you and see how you are doing.

(((Cas)))



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Dia,

Gotta say, I love your mother's sentiments....I'm onto it!

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Hi Oz,

I'm feeling quite a bit better today. Should be ready for a great weekend!

Cas

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