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Old apartment w/things behind--you have not let go of the past situation.

W's pregnancy--something new is going on; she may be trying to hide it from you but you are still aware of it on some subconcious level.

Phone--could be just phone, but also possibly connection, talking....

There are lots of dream dictionaries out there.

I haven't had interesting dreams as of late.


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That's pretty spooky.

Maybe what the other poster said about asking for more than 50% custody if she keeps wanting you to keep them on "her" days... something to consider?

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Just dropped X as a "friend" on my facebook page.

Should have done that a while back.


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I wonder what her reaction will be?

I can kind of guess.


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I doubt she'll notice. At least she acted puzzled when I mentioned to her we were friends on facebook a couple of months ago.

But then again that was in front of OM.


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Originally Posted By: sleeper
Just dropped X as a "friend" on my facebook page.

Should have done that a while back.


I agree, I also have a few choice folks on my blocked list for now. I know for a fact they do some snooping of their own.

I have a feeling the further you drift apart, the more she is going to be hit with reality and it may not be pretty for a while. Stay the course, and most importantly do the distancing thing for you.


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trapt has given you excellent advice. Please listen to him. The more you distance and not be readily available to bail her out of her many situations, the better. If she wants you to care for the children more hours than what has been stipulated on paper, I would go back and have the visitation/care giving issue revisited and go from there.

Blocking her in Facebook is an action that she will "hear" loud and clear. Actions always speak louder than words w/people in crisis or in the world of denial. Stay the course and do the distancing for you, not for a reaction from her.


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Sleeper yes agree with what everyone says....this game of "life" your wife thinks is all about HER....WELL.... NOT

Distance for YOU !

just keep thinking of the kids as you go forward....polite will be good so the kids can make the best of this crummy situation...past that...LET HER HAVE WHAT SHE WANTED

I think your future is BRIGHT

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I had another dream night before last and figured it out last night.

I was on a school bus and knew a nuclear attack was coming. I planned to get on the floor between the seats and cover myself with my coat as that was the only action I could take. I estimated how severe the blast would be and as it would be some distance away I figured I'd be OK.

When the blast did occur it was much worse than I estimated. My forearms were burned by radiant energy as they were on the seat and not as protected as the rest of my body even though they had been covered by my coat.

The dream was symbolic of the end of our M. I knew for some time it was inevitable and took some action to protect myself. The reality is that the event has been much more destructive than I predicted and I am "burned" worse than I thought I would be.

Bus = Symbolic of a journey
Nuclear blast = Divorce
Burns = Damage

When the dream ended I was still on the bus.

This journey ain't over.

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Yes, I have a lot of those symbolic dreams myself. Interesting how our mind works, even when we're sleeping, isn't it?


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