K4D Rising #4

[C-Bart]

I have obviously said to much about my personal life.

Kevin

Maybe. But please understand you have impacted many people on this forum in a positive way. Now we are trying to help you help yourself. That's the way it works.

[25yearsmlc]

I have obviously said to much about my personal life.
Kevin

Nope. It was long overdo that you talked to someone. Might as well be on an anonymous blog.

I agree with 25. Get the help you need. We all need help that is why we are on this site.

PMA

I said in the previous post, there's no shame in needing help. I am a person who got clinically depressed after my dad died. I got help. It worked. You choose not to get help and then feel insulted when we don't get sucked into discussions about your wife. We want you to get well. You resist that. It's part of the problem you create in your own life. Calling her controlling after admitting you won't make a decision and you prefer for her to make them all, is a remarkable lack of insight on your end. After all this time, you still don't get it. So that's why I was so blunt. I've been there, where I had to have someone else tell me "25, you need to talk to someone professional" and within a day of hearing that, I did.
For the life of me, I don't know why you won't.
j-

[K4D]

For the life of me, I don't know why you won't.

I'm not rejecting it. Just trying to figure out how to best work it in.

Kevin

[frank_D]

I said in the previous post, there's no shame in needing help. I am a person who got clinically depressed after my dad died. I got help. It worked.

Same here. I had a lot of traumatic things happen, turned to alcohol and W left for her 'soulmate'. I got some help and things turned around but I didn't 'finish' the process of healing myself and we ended up back in the same place, only worse this time.

Your W doesn't matter any more. You need to clean you own house before you can tackle any other persons issues.

[Virtually_Handsome]

For the life of me, I don't know why you won't.

I'm not rejecting it. Just trying to figure out how to best work it in.

Kevin

As one who has been there, that's rejecting it.

You work it in, as Nike says, by just doing it. The first call is a hard on to make. Then you realize that it's what they do! They treat you with respect, they are really there to help. Go for it, Kevin!

[K4D]

Proverbs 3 Verses 5-7

5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart, and lean not unto thine own understanding;

6 in all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

7 Be not wise in thine own eyes; fear the LORD and depart from evil.

I need to remind myself of this every day.

Kevin

[K4D]

Tonight my girls and W are going to a balloon festival. I was not invited to join. No surprise.

I asked W if she would like to start doing things as a family with the kids. She said no, but thank you for asking.

I shouldn't have asked. But I guess I just wanted us to do stuff together as a family. I know the kids want that to.

Kevin

[MrBond]

"I shouldn't have asked. But I guess I just wanted us to do stuff together as a family. I know the kids want that to."

Let's be honest here. Sure the kids may want to, but more importantly, you want to. You still need your fix of your W. She's like a drug to you.

You have to break that dependency on her.

Have you been getting the help many people have said you should get?

[C-Bart]

Stuck,
How does someone break an addiction to another person?

[frank_D]

Stuck,
How does someone break an addiction to another person?

Stop taking the daily doses of them. I.E. lessen the contact.