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#1810972 - 07/30/09 08:15 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: CityGirl]
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A superb idea. I like it. I shall have to do some research on blog sites.

I can become the genius in my own mind that I always wanted to be and simply blog it.

BA thing is still on BTW.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1811079 - 07/31/09 12:52 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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I picked up my kids and took them to Krystal for dinner. Then we had milk shakes. Then we came home and played cards. It was fun. Now they are watching something on TV.

Tomorrow is Friday. YAY!!!

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1811122 - 07/31/09 02:28 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Tonight the girls and I were doing out nightly devo and D7 asks to talk to me. I said sure, whats on your mind. She says it seems like something is missing and this doesn't feel like home anymore. I said what is that. What do we need to get to make it feel like home again. She said mom.

I didn't quite know what to say to that one. Any suggestions?

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1811131 - 07/31/09 02:46 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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D7 fell asleep within a few minutes of saying this. I'm wondering if she was over tired.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1811151 - 07/31/09 03:17 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Originally Posted By: K4D
Tonight the girls and I were doing out nightly devo and D7 asks to talk to me. I said sure, whats on your mind. She says it seems like something is missing and this doesn't feel like home anymore. I said what is that. What do we need to get to make it feel like home again. She said mom.

I didn't quite know what to say to that one. Any suggestions?

Kevin


You say, I know honey. I want her home, too. She is here in our thoughts and we can pray for her, too.

No need to deny that this is what you'd want. Keep it simple, though. Don't play the sympathy card accidentally on purpose.
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S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012!
Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.


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#1811276 - 07/31/09 01:25 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: The Wifey]
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Thanks Wifey,

That is pretty much what I decided to say. I appreciate the advice.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1811287 - 07/31/09 01:46 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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This morning while I was on my way to drop off my girls at the rec center, D7 says she wants to be homeschooled. So I tell her that I have to work and can't do that. Then she says if me and mommy get back together, mommy could stay home and homeschool them while I worked.

I said ya. That would be a possibility.

I am all for homeschooling but haven't really talked about it with my girls. I was surprised she brought it up and was thinking it through.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1811303 - 07/31/09 02:12 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Hey Kevin, please get some counseling for your daughters. please. and dont stall on this. please. their toughts and issues and concerns go further than they are talking to you about. someone at your church may be able to help. search them out. asap. please.

this happened to me: my daughter was withdrawling, i noticed but she wouldnt talk about it. my son was refusing to sleep in his own bed. even though I would make him get in his own bed at night, he would wait till I fell asleep then snuck and got in bed with me. one night I was woken up to a punch in the head, then several more punches, scratches, screaming. my wife went off the deep end. I went to the police filed a DIR. a couple days later I come home, my wife had left my daughter home alone, and there is a cop car in the driveway. My daughter was picked up walking down the street carrying duffle bags. for all the crap I have had to deal with these past few years this for me was god awful hardest thing to stomach.

you have enough to work out for yourself with right now. help your kids to learn how to deal with this correctly. and whatever you do. DO NOT use this a reason to talk to your wife about why the two of you need to get back together. you will find alot of resentment and anger directed towards you. Steve.

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#1811307 - 07/31/09 02:17 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Steve McQueen]
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Registered: 01/15/09
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i sense your kids are really confused right now; that is why i brought this up. my daughter would say the same things about wanting mamma and daddy to get along and being a family again. I wasnt able to explain to her in the correct way that it is not always easy.


Edited by Steve McQueen (07/31/09 02:21 PM)
Edit Reason: fix up my redneck english

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#1811309 - 07/31/09 02:17 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Hey Kev - Just wanted to pop in and say hi. Was out of commission on the golf course yesterday with some clients.

A couple of things: Just wanted to say that I am proud of you. I just read a number of posts from you with no mention of whatshername. That's great bro and it is progress. Your PMA sounds better also. Do you notice a difference?? Do you feel a little stronger? Because it's going to get better and better.

Regarding the kids. I think what KJ told you is very important. Please pay attention to what she said about playing the sympathy card. I would make sure when these questions come up that you reassure her that both mommy and daddy love her very much and that is never going to change.

Have you considered selling the house and moving to get a fresh start?? I would also consider putting the girls in therapy. Just a few thoughts.

Keep up the good work!

Strength and Honor.

Mules
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W 44
M 17
T 22
S16,12,9
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I served her 1/06/09
S'd 3/15/09
D'd 12/21/09



"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.

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