Yes, father's day that's another tricky situation. It is just one after the other. I too am thinking nothing as well, S won't do anything and I am sure D won't either.
so a 180 for father's day..... Previously I have reminded and assisted kids to purchase gifts and asked H if he would like to spend time with the kids on the day. That's why this year I think I should do nothing
Yeah ... we are all here on that one. I have a card (from the cats) but not sure if I should send it ... he would only think that it's emotional blackmail as he did when I sent him a picture message recently. OK for him to send me one though, when I was back in the UK!
Geez, these aliens known not what they do, eh ladies??
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
I love the synopsis of your sitch, once again the similarities are uncanny. We do deserve more, how to get it is what’s deluding us at the moment. I’m going for a combination of staying away but being friendly if we have any contact. I’m a fixer too so this course of action (if you can call it that) is frustrating for me. It feels like nothing is moving in either direction.
Father’s Day – leave it for the kids to decide, best not to get involved in the R that they develop with their father. My H took the initiative in his own hands and asked the kids to spend time with him, which I thought at the time was a bit funny. Surely if it’s father’s day the kids should be arranging to do something with the dad not the dad sorting it out – still my H’s got a big ego (only thing bit about him lol). 
Hi Guys....dinner update. Just before leaving my meeting I got a text from H saying he was still at class and would be late to dinner and to start without him. I asked him to text when he was leaving so we'd know how far away he was. We ordered a drink and by the time our drinks had arrived H was there so not a very long delay.
I was happy with my grooming and ensured I looked as good as I could. I sat at one end of the table and H was on the opposite side at the far end.
H said very little for the entire meal, not just to me but to anyone. He appeared very tired. I told him a story of someone I met today who knew us both and he was fairly disinterested. Probably not anymore interested in any other conversation though.
H paid for dinner and I took cash to pay him and he looked quite shocked and insisted on paying saying we could work it out later. Then we all went up to the gelati shop-yum, yum. We all had a gelati and then after a while we headed off on our seperate ways. He said goodbye and that was it.
H actually text me more words than he spoke!!
I felt quite pleased with the dinner as I enjoyed my evening eventhough H was not an active participant.
