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#1837174 - 09/14/09 07:51 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: girlfromoz]
dolphin_05 Offline
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Registered: 06/21/09
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Think I'm still happy with nc after all that. Probably just my impatience coming through and perhaps my own lack of confidence.

I need to get moving on my own goals and get my social life organised in advance. I have been staying home a bit trying to rest up but as the report was great at the surgeon today I can ramp things up a little more.

I have a friend arriving tomorrow for a few days so that will keep me occupied... dinner, movie, beach walks, cafe. Perfect now the weather is so beautiful.

I've read the advice from Gucci to you and it's a real change in our thinking and to best support you we need to think that way, too Oz.

Maybe we need to organise a GC retreat for us all. Blue sky, sunny days, beautiful beach. What more could anyone want?

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#1837182 - 09/14/09 08:11 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: dolphin_05]
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Great news on your recovery!
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#1837340 - 09/14/09 12:26 PM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: JCJ]
bonnyh Offline
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Hi CAs

Sounds like the GAL is going well and that you're recovery continues.

NC seems to be working on a personal level which is probably the best we can hope for. The DB stuff is just as much about your personal achievement/growth (or whatever you want to call it) as it is about saving the M.

All power to you
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#1837547 - 09/14/09 04:11 PM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: bonnyh]
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Hi Cas

I think Gucci's words do ring true and in a lot of cases depending on the situation denial holds us back, I do believe that is the case for me.

I am glad you had a good report from the surgeon that should give you a much needed boost to get going on your GAL activities. It will be good having your friend stay for a few days with some fun things to look forward to.

A GC retreat sounds ideal.
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#1837840 - 09/15/09 05:42 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: girlfromoz]
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Registered: 08/16/09
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Well done Cas - keep the improvements up. When you are back to 100%, you can then give DB your all - it's got to be so tough when you are not feeling yourself.

Having your friend to stay has to be the best tonic!
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Cats 15 & 6
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#1838262 - 09/15/09 04:23 PM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: Eskimo Nell]
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Morning Cas

Thought I would drop in and say hi, hope you are okay.
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#1838568 - 09/16/09 04:04 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: girlfromoz]
dolphin_05 Offline
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I'm going well. Thanks Oz. Had my little regression when I doubted the other day but I'm back on top and feeling happy. I'm itching to do stuff now like travel and move but I have to put a hold on myself for now. I'm getting impatient but I sense this is a good thing in some ways.

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#1838574 - 09/16/09 05:02 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: dolphin_05]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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A definite sign of improvement as far as I see things.

You are doing so well Cas.
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WAH 43; W 47
M 16; T 17
Cats 15 & 6
Bomb 27/05/09
ow 28/06/09

"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

Started counselling 17/08/09

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#1838579 - 09/16/09 05:44 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: Eskimo Nell]
Lost Rabbit Offline
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Registered: 08/26/09
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Just thought I'd say as we seem to be on the all the same threads! Keep your chin up and I hope you are fully recovered soon.
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#1838646 - 09/16/09 09:44 AM Re: Long Journey .......... advice please [Re: Lost Rabbit]
JCJ Offline
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Registered: 05/27/08
Posts: 3323
Loc: London, UK
Hey Cas

Just saying hi. Do you really think your h will hold out and hold out before he makes a move. I can't remember if you've said whether you have let him make the first moves before? How long have you had n/c in the past?

Is it warming up over there yet? I can feel Autmn creeping into the air over here, not that we had much of a summer!
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