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#1838384 - 09/15/09 11:17 PM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: sleeper]
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Registered: 01/27/07
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Loc: California
Life isn't in print anymore, but I still see them from time to time at garage sales and in used book stores.

Dude, you are totally the better man. I've heard stories wink

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#1838416 - 09/16/09 12:49 AM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: Grace_O]
forward Offline
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Sleeper, Hang in there for yourself. You are growing and changing now, yourself....
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M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
X has major medical issues
New Woman - died.
Remarried to new guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D


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#1838496 - 09/16/09 03:07 AM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: Grace_O]
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Registered: 12/12/07
Posts: 1843
Loc: The Great State of Confusion
We lifeguards manage to keep things to ourselves but those ____ pool boys talk too much.
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"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib
Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
Bomb and OM 12/15/06
Separated 01/02/07
Divorced 05/13/08
X married OM(OMH) 08/2009
Married 06/09/13

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#1838502 - 09/16/09 03:14 AM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: sleeper]
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Just remember, it's not gossiping....it's networking.

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#1839119 - 09/17/09 02:19 AM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: Grace_O]
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Or is it "networking"?

X called me on the phone this PM. She asked if I was OK with a girlfriend of hers "setting me up" with a third party for a date. She went on to say she told said girlfriend I was dating someone. I was in shock. I asked if it was the girlfriend herself who wanted a date with me and was this was her way of asking. She hessitatingly replied, "no".

She went on to mention her girlfriend could send me the info on facebook as X could not since I removed her from my "friends" list. I was surprised and couldn't help but ask if her feelings were still hurt by that and X replied, "yeah". I didn't mention my feelings were hurt when she picked out another man, screwed him in our bed (the one I bought and hauled home and assembled alone while she was pregnant with our son), divorced me and married him. I simply responded, "sorry".

This is the second time she has tried to fix me up on a date. The first time was while we were separated but still married, about 1.5 years ago. At that time it was X herself trying to fix me up AFTER I made a comment about one of her employees. This time I have no idea who this person is and X didn't even mention her name, let alone volunteer any info.

What is the deal? Other than this being a major boundary breech on her part what is goin on? My mind reaced through all the possibilities including the unmeasurably minute chance that the person X's friend may "fix me up" with is X herself (I wouldn't put it past her) and she was feeling me out to determine how serious I am with Ladyfriend.

Ironically I saw OMH driving alone a few hours later. He was on his cell and having an unpleasant conversation with someone by the expression on his face and the antimated way he was tapping the steering wheel with his thumb.
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"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib
Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
Bomb and OM 12/15/06
Separated 01/02/07
Divorced 05/13/08
X married OM(OMH) 08/2009
Married 06/09/13

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#1839207 - 09/17/09 10:51 AM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: sleeper]
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Tell her thanks but no thanks. You're doing just on your own in regards to that.

You'll never know what her motives are, but when it comes to mlc'ers most of the time they are self serving and not in our best intrest.

Distance my friend....distance.

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#1839249 - 09/17/09 12:53 PM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: fisherman]
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Registered: 01/27/07
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Ok.....

That's really odd IMO. Could be looking for intel, doesn't really matter.

I wouldn't touch that one with a really long pole though. Of course maybe I'm just cynical wink

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#1839253 - 09/17/09 12:57 PM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: fisherman]
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Registered: 10/12/08
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Originally Posted By: trapt
Tell her thanks but no thanks. You're doing just on your own in regards to that.


oops the word fine if added would have helped this make sense.

It's early. crazy
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Don't stand still.

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#1839583 - 09/17/09 07:38 PM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: fisherman]
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Registered: 02/04/08
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She keeps doing this... I would ask her politely to stay out of your personal business from now on. Major weird/icky.

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#1839702 - 09/17/09 09:47 PM Re: New Boundaries for the Bride [Re: Andabelle]
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Like I said, I was in shock. Possibilities:

She want to find out if Ladyfriend and I are serious.

And you know what, I've stopped right there. What other reason could there be? This "person" that is a friend of her friend doesn't have a name? I find that odd. If it was a real person she would have at least mentioned her name and some reason/reasons she thought we might like to go out, how she knows I exist. At least something we have in common or something about her...Nothing.

This really sounds like something her and her girlfriend cooked up to find out how serious I am with Ladyfriend.
_________________________
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib
Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12
Bomb and OM 12/15/06
Separated 01/02/07
Divorced 05/13/08
X married OM(OMH) 08/2009
Married 06/09/13

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