GG I did tell my L to mention in the agreement w does not want D and would like H to attend C in hopes of saving the M MY L made this clear several times to my XH L you can have ity in the agreement you can ask your L to stall in every way possible You can make H do all the work and his L make all the changes and it will cost him a lot let his L draw the agreement up and you L can just cross stuff off you may be able to contest the D in my state, they did give us a time limit though so that is how they push it along Im sorry for your pain I just went thru it last year and it is so difficult but once over much better peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Yes, there will be a time limit at which point we will have to decide to withdraw the petition or not...my lawyer is going to ask for 4 months, but it might only be 2. That won't be enough time. Don't know what to do?? Guess, just breathe and take it one day at a time. Just really miss my old life with my amazing hubby.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Don't listen to, nor try to analyze what your h says. Cheaters are liars. Actions are what you look for, and it seems your h has a L. That speaks volumes.
Please, try not to get sucked in by any "confusing" talk from him. I have seen a lot of WAS's try to stall you so they can get their ducks in a row and really stick it to you. Has he broken it off with ow and begged forgiveness?
The A your h is in is the most dangerous kind, financially. He and ow are most certainly planning to grab any assets they can. Have L freeze the assets and don't worry about making your h mad. If he really loves you, you would think that he would respect the fact that you are trying to protect marital assets, not allow him to use them to finance a new beginning with someone else.
I know you love him and are in great pain right now. But you will be in even more pain if you lose BOTH your h AND the $$$.
GG KImmie is so right I do not know your full situation but MY xh had a secret credit card account He spent unbelievable amounts of money on OW and his lifestyle he lied and lied and lied I always handked our finances and in the past , H was modest but in MLC he went crazy AT first, I counld not believe it but Credit card statements dont lie he kept everything hidden he was giving ow money too he almost crashed our business into the ground i saved it at the last second with my L help and now I have control of the financial part of our shared business SO Be smart here seperate finances from the love you still feel thew MLCer will use that to steal it all and they are so deceptive they dont care..they have little conciuos at this point they are not the same seperate the old H from this alien her is alien now sure the mlcer will get mad blame it on your L and accpet the fact that the mad is part of the D and getting the agreement the way it needs to be for you peace so
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
He has almost "demanded" that I put the divorce on hold several times, but shows no signs of wanting to work out our marriage. The house he is renting is larger and nicer than ours!! I want him to come back, but he's gone and I know I have to be smart as snodderly said and leave my emotions at the door because this is a business deal. Wish there was some other way. What my friends say is that he'll be thankful I saved some of the money and his business when he does eventually come back....
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
As long as he's with the OW, all bets are off. File when YOU want to file. Protect yourself first. It's fine to keep hope alive, just make sure you're not at the short end of the stick.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
