I'm in shock. I just can't wrap my head around the fact that he is actually writing up papers for a legal separation. I can't believe we're looking at financial division. I know I need to be as cool as Stronger, but I just don't know how to process this!
I just put pieces together and asked him. He claims he will only go back to MC with me once I sign the legal separation AND he will not seeing OW. If I refuse, he'll file straight for D and not look back. I haven't slept a wink. Don't know where to begin.
Pray for support and guidance. Pray for your husband...as much as you may not want to. Go be with family. Sleep. Don't forget to eat. Evaluate your sitch. What are your goals at this point? Whay can you do to get there?
We're all still here with you.
Me: 35 W: 31 S:9 M: 10 years Together 13 MySitch - Ups & Downs She moved out the day before Thanksgiving 2009, over 13 months post-bomb.
I mean he will not stop seeing OW. I feel awful.Looking back, I had a chance to get him back in the past, he was saying if I did xyz he wouldn't necessarily get a D. I can't believe I didn't see it - he got tested for stds, he's been gone for mysterious outings he was defensive about saying who he was with... it's really bad. I'm obssessing and despondent I'll never get ht o provto him things can be differdnt so he WANTS to come back. Thaat's what db says too but how do i do it? Go dark?