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#1829014 - 08/31/09 06:24 AM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: Sara]
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No. But seriously, this is just so obnoxious and I don't know what to do with it. So self-important. There was admission of guilt and culpability and having skewed the truth to suit his ambitions...but, then, basically, "it isn't my fault because it is written in the stars"...

WTF?

And Sara, I hope you'll give me your take because I think you're a pretty sharp gal.
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#1829016 - 08/31/09 06:48 AM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: aliveandkicking]
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I know I am not a sharp gal, but my take on this is TOUGH LOVE or how ever you guys call it. Dont bother to reply, do not make small talk about this with him. He is far from getting back in the M and he is still very self absorved.

Please, dont let this get you off balance. An email should not make any difference at this point. You are wondering what it means? To me it means that in the middle of his crazy life he had a "weak" moment because he sees you are different now but I doubt he will it follow up with anything else if you fall for it. (I wish for you, he does. I just doubt he will).

My stbxh still says to this day "he wasnt made of family material". Only he figured that out after creating a family...
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#1829017 - 08/31/09 07:02 AM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: Kalni]
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You certainly are a sharp gal. I have a lot of respect for you. I hope you will recognize that your loyalty to your H was a positive reflection on you and who you are and he was a lying a**hole. I know that isn't what you posted about but you put yourself down! Everyone here really admires you.

Anyway, as for H, ya, I see this as a massive cop-out and even more reflective of why he was so hard to live with..."yes, I did x, y, z but it is not my fault"...but this one takes the cake! I mean "it is written in the stars"...that he has to be a jerk????

...just a bit much, really.
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#1829018 - 08/31/09 07:22 AM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: aliveandkicking]
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No, I dont put myself down, I know who I am and what I am worth. I was being "funny" (ie a smart@ss) because of your comment to Sara (Sara, how are you?).

At some point we need to see them for what they are.
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#1829020 - 08/31/09 07:33 AM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: Kalni]
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Ok, well I guess I missed the humor but I was trying to give you a compliment.

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At some point we need to see them for what they are.


That is the challenge, I suppose.

Exhausted, going to bed. Good night...or good morning. wink
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#1829022 - 08/31/09 07:42 AM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Thanks a&k for the compliment, you are kind.
Good night,
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#1829084 - 08/31/09 12:32 PM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: Sara]
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Originally Posted By: Sara
Let me guess....he is a scorpio. Yes? No?


Hey now. All us Scorpios aren't all bad.
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#1829085 - 08/31/09 12:35 PM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: tristan]
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Originally Posted By: tristan
Originally Posted By: Sara
Let me guess....he is a scorpio. Yes? No?


Hey now. All us Scorpios aren't all bad.


Yeah, what do you have against us Scorpios???

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#1829088 - 08/31/09 12:42 PM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
No. But seriously, this is just so obnoxious and I don't know what to do with it. So self-important. There was admission of guilt and culpability and having skewed the truth to suit his ambitions...but, then, basically, "it isn't my fault because it is written in the stars"...


Well, I'm sure not defending this stuff but I feel compelled to share from the other side. I've personally held some views and convinced myself to believe some things that I later discovered were ridiculous. And yes, they're too embarrassing to post here. I'm a data point of one but I know at least one person can change for the better. To me that equals hope. Not suggesting any change in course, just wanted to throw that point in the mix.


Edited by RedSoxFan (08/31/09 12:43 PM)
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#1829104 - 08/31/09 01:15 PM Re: I'm hurting...but okay...help... [Re: aliveandkicking]
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He followed with a text letting me know he had sent me a "revealing" email...alert the press, I have an email from H that can't wait... ]


laugh

Call a news conference. Stop the presses.....

"We interrupt this thread for this very important announcement"


AAK's husband has texted her that he sent a "revealing" email...



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