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#1851567 - 10/07/09 08:11 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: girlfromoz]
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Hi Nell,

Hope today was a better one for you!

Cas

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#1851572 - 10/07/09 08:46 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: dolphin_05]
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Have a nice day at work will catch up with you later!
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#1851578 - 10/07/09 09:08 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: girlfromoz]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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Hi Oz
You are going really well!! I bet you feel a million times better, don't you? I know that I would.

Just thinking that I will get to see H at the weekend has put a spring in my step and it was commented upon at work today. My concentration has been that much better and, as I was past his workplace today, it wasn't even that hard to drive by without thoughts of driving past there.

I shan't offer to bring picnic/coffee. I emailed him to choose where and when to meet and let me know. I'm still waiting but he will get to it! I kind of like the beach café so that we can have coffee and then walk, if it feels appropriate.

I spent some time with a friend from back hom last night - she is in the same boat as we are and we chatted 'live' for a while. She's much like you actually Rabbit! I went to bed happier for being able to be more myself than I guess I can be here, even though this is good.

I know that less is sometimes more but there are times when more is definitely necessary! We shared some stuff that neither of us were aware of before and I slept much better and awoke much calmer this morning. It was good to have some 'extra' attention!

I'm doing OK today and wish that I could have more days like this and less like I normally have.
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"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

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#1851579 - 10/07/09 09:09 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: dolphin_05]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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Thanks Cas - much better today.

How have you been?
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Cats 15 & 6
Bomb 27/05/09
ow 28/06/09

"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

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#1851580 - 10/07/09 10:00 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
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Good to hear you got a lot out of chatting to your friend last night, I am blessed with several very good friends and none of them think Im mad for wanting my H back or at least they have the good manners not to say so lol!
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#1852121 - 10/08/09 12:38 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Lost Rabbit]
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Registered: 08/05/09
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Hi Nell

I am glad you are feeling brighter in your mood today, being able to vent to another such as you have can do you the world of good.

I am sending you heaps of hugs and good wishes Nell that this coming weekend goes smoothly for you and with some positive outcomes.

You are right, I am doing well and feel so much better, but I am not so naive as to become complacent, I have no intention of letting things slip again.
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#1852250 - 10/08/09 07:34 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: girlfromoz]
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Hello there Nell!

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#1852255 - 10/08/09 09:06 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: dolphin_05]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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Hello folks!
Thanks for dropping in Oz and Cas.

Not so happy this evening. H has emailed, supposedly to make plans for when and where to meet at the weekend and all he is demanding is what EXACTLY I want to discuss about the finances as he wants to be prepared.

I replied that I merely wanted to point some things out to him - nothing to prepare for. Last time we met to discuss finances, I had everything prepared - spreadsheets, the works and he wouldn't even look at it. Suddenly he's become very conscientious about this stuff ... go figure!

I told him that if he didn't want to meet, then fine and where would he like me to have his mail sent. I'm getting SO fed up of all this game playing.

I think that it's about time for a very serious letter from me to H.
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WAH 43; W 47
M 16; T 17
Cats 15 & 6
Bomb 27/05/09
ow 28/06/09

"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

Started counselling 17/08/09

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#1852261 - 10/08/09 10:32 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Eskimo Nell]
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Think teddy throwing man is just lobbing his teddies again! I do wonder if he is just panicking about what you have instore for him as you did lose it last time and he doesnt want to be in that situation again. Personally I would have given him a few items as appeasement and left it so he couldnt wiggle out of seeing you! Well just wait and see now perhaps the Im done with you mail part will rattle something!


Edited by Lost Rabbit (10/08/09 10:34 AM)
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#1852277 - 10/08/09 11:56 AM Re: UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach [Re: Lost Rabbit]
Eskimo Nell Offline
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I'm with you Rabbit .. understand that he is probably rattled a bit.

Just responded to his negative email - was polite but business-like and maybe just a tad mysterious. I'm giving up slowly but thought it still worth a try!
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WAH 43; W 47
M 16; T 17
Cats 15 & 6
Bomb 27/05/09
ow 28/06/09

"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"

Started counselling 17/08/09

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