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Well that was helpful. grin



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The best reply to a narcissist is nothing at all.


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That's exactly what he got.



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Damn Straight!


"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
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OOOOOOOOOO-Dog, how you doing?



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I started feeling better as soon as I walked out of that office after signing the papers. Not that I wanted to but I didn't have it hanging over my head.

Went out for drinks afterwards. Everyone was very supportive and upbeat. Long talk with a person afterwards about future plans.

Asked out for drinks again tonight - good conversation.

It's all good when I don't concern myself with what's happening on the other side of the fence.


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Cool. I suppose you concur that I should keep movin' on here despite H's invitations (weak-a$$ as they are)...



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Well I don't know if I'm the one to ask around here. H needs to "get it" and understand how his behavior affects you and the kids before you move any closer otherwise you're repeating the same sitch again. I know you've spelled it out before but do it again and don't move his direction until you see a sign of change. It might be very difficult to understand for someone who is truly narcisistic as H might be.

You can't keep crashing your head into a brick wall.

How's that?


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Ya, pretty much where I'm at. I wake up sad because he was my family, you know?

But, and it is a big but, he does not get it and I can't imagine ever seeing him as the guy who would be here for me come hell or high water...and that is truly what I want.

So, I am moving on and oddly, we are getting along and I just ignore any and all frivolous communication...I let him play with himself.

It is just so odd to be so ok and nice to him while still maintaining my boundaries...

I hope you are able to relish in the done-ness of your sitch...and enjoy your life.



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Yeah, she was my family too and I miss her but I can't pay attention to her sitch anymore.

ignore the frivolous and angry stuff.


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