RSF- I'll answer your post a little later. But I will say, I think he peed with the door open just like he passed gas in front of me because he's lazy and it is nice to just let it all hang out. But if that is intended to be enticing, he may want to try another angle.
I didn't say it was a winning strategy, or even that it was smart. How about primitive? I still think it's more than just laziness...regardless, probably not that important right now.
Originally Posted By: aliveandkicking
I'm so sad this morning, crying, and I have to go get the kids from him and take them to school. Fake it...
If I were there right now maybe I could belch or fart to cheer you up...huh? ;-)
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
Oh, stop...you're turning me on just talking about it. LOL
in all seriousness, I don't mind the less savory bodily functions if I'm getting the more desirable stuff too.
understood
AKA: "Ben the school teacher" --- Me:45, W:41 | Ds:10,12&14 | M:18, T:20 Me: MLC+PA+WAS+Separated 10/08 My Request to Reconcile Denied 7/09 W w/OM 6/09-11/09
S7 had an over the top tantrum this morning at h's. I finally got it under control. H suggested we drop the kids off together and then go have breakfast. I said I need to go to the market to get them lunches and bring them back to the school. H said that shouldn't take too long and told me where he'd be. I said I've got a lot to do. He looked surprised and offended. He even challenged me a little and said "well, you know where I'll be. Or I guess I'll see you later."
I can't tell if something is happening here...
I don't know if we are ready to even talk about it overtly but I would kind of like to ask "what do you want."
I do feel like we're speaking different languages and I'm either misreading or missing something. Or perhaps we are both just ambivilant and giving mixed messages.
I don't know if we are ready to even talk about it overtly but I would kind of like to ask "what do you want."
NO!
Do you really know what you want right now?
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I said I've got a lot to do. He looked surprised and offended.
Let him think long and hard over his coffee about what he is doing, missing out on and how it effects the kids. You stay busy. Don't rescue him.
Long way from being over. Patience.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I don't know what I want. I do know that at a minimum, if I were going to treat him as a romantic prospect, I would want to know that he was out of his we are done no matter what phase and if we ML it's a "habit" or "mistake", or that I am like slumming for him when he's got so many prospects.
Back to already being dead. It is so hard to just let of of this boil under the surface and not take the lid off. But, even yesterday when he expressed his desire for us to reveal everything, I feared I was being set up because he just can't stand not knowing what I'm up to romantically. I'm not going to pour my guts out just to assuage his angst and satisfy his ego.
Frankly, I don't think if we ever did reconcile that I would even want to go there...just call it a long extended lost weekend.
how do I see that look on his face and get a sense that I am potentially missing my chance??? So silly. Mornings are tough. Take a shower. Take care of business. Go look at an apartment...whew...keep going.
Signs that he is coming out of his fog (erasing overtly self-absorbed and thoughtless photos from facebook, referencing a feeling of complete disassociation from his experience of living at rich people's house-feels like it wasn't real)...still pretty obsessed with rock star and plans to work with him more
I've been following your thread for a while A&K. Your H reminds me of mine in so many ways.
Mine is currently living the life of the rich & famous and not at all worried that I don't care how long he stays away. Our relationship had improved a lot this past year, especially in the 6 months before he left on his business trip. It was stunning to me how quickly and completely he detached from me once he was at the "all your ego can eat buffet".
This old country song has been going through my mind lately:
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Damn Coach. I know I'm supposed to just "get it" but let me guess, he's not getting any action elsewhere? Or do you mean he's not getting the sugar only I can give him?
Important distinction, yes?
Oh, interestingly, H has made NO moves (other than slapping my butt yesterday which I let slide) but even on our movie date, he made no play...
