I am late (time zones) but a&k, eventhough I f@cked up in my sitch, your sitch seems so clear to me... Your H DEMANDS that you treat him like you have been lately. Tough "love", boundaries, detachement, "get your sh!t straight mister", no enabling of any kind (incl related to kids), a challenge, everything in that direction...
So, dont doubt yourself, stand firm. Be a loving....bitch, LOL K
Haven't been keeping up with you in a while but decided to drop in and see where you're at...what a turnaround! Love the kung fu attitude. Keep on taking names and kicking ass! (Or is it the other way around?)
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g