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#1822853 - 08/20/09 07:57 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: still.struggling]
dday101798 Offline
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Registered: 09/02/08
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Loc: Chi-town
Originally Posted By: T2SP
It's in the water.......DON'T DRINK THE WATER!!!!!!


LOL, great, that's all I drink all day long. shocked
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Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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#1822870 - 08/20/09 08:18 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: dday101798]
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Do you ever notice all those cargo truck passing through your neighborhood? Did you also notice all the stacks and stacks of huge green pods these vehicles are carrying inside?

Yep. They're here already.
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S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
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#1822877 - 08/20/09 08:23 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: NoCodeBlues]
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Haha, I just referred to the pod people the other day.! laugh
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Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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#1822882 - 08/20/09 08:25 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: dday101798]
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Well, time to go "home". Sandi I'd still love your take on this.......Or anyone else is just as fine too.

Originally Posted By: dday101798
So Sandi,

I read in another thread the "jealousy indicates attachment, and the more angerly or negatively that jealousy is displayed the more attached they still are".

So is this XW's way of saying she's still trying to cling on to something (me) despite all she's said and done, and even still while with OM?

She made it a point to articulate during the better part of the converation how much she was looking forward to getting her drivers liscence back as she "feels like a prisoner". Couple that with the statement that OM is her "chauffer". she also tried to downplay their relation, despite the engagement now never being put off in her terms.

And if so, being from your stance, what would be the wrong response from your LBS? I'm currently not giving her a response and darkened communication again. Wrong move? I don't think so, I think if it festers in her head for a while and she has no idea what I'm up to, she'll come back around on her own and try even harder to work at being friends?

It also goes to show, I've changed my ways and not fought back, despite her insisting I did. I opted to terminate the conversation on several occasions.

thanks for any input
-dylan
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Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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#1823389 - 08/21/09 12:34 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: dday101798]
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Well, XW must be working her magic with the kids, no call last night.

Wish she'd keep them out of her personal vendettas with me.

Part I still don't understand is why such emotion. Why should it hurt the person who LEFT me for someone else to be told my life now is none of her business?

OH yeah, as said, "insane double standard".

Whatever, off to the job hunt.
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Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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#1823554 - 08/21/09 04:06 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: dday101798]
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Good luck with the hunting!
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PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
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#1823556 - 08/21/09 04:11 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: mishka422]
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Registered: 09/02/08
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Originally Posted By: mishka422
Good luck with the hunting!


Huu-huu, I'd be bwetta off hunting wabbits right now.
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Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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#1823581 - 08/21/09 04:39 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: dday101798]
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Registered: 12/12/07
Posts: 9710
Loc: GA
hhheeehheeeheeeheeee.....a la Elmer!
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T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!


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#1823625 - 08/21/09 05:30 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: mishka422]
dday101798 Offline
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Registered: 09/02/08
Posts: 2452
Loc: Chi-town
You know this makes me think of another thing from taht ill fated conversation.

I mentioned to XW that I may be leaving my job of so long and going elsewhere. She freaked and said there's no way I should give it up.

But I have had this thought the since then, that maybe this place is another reason I keep getting down and am so anxious to do something else. I started this job shortly after we married and to support a family that I now don't have.

Heh, Just a passing thought.
_________________________
Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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#1823708 - 08/21/09 06:57 PM Re: Newbie (again) [Re: dday101798]
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Registered: 09/02/08
Posts: 2452
Loc: Chi-town
Hey Sandi, you still out there?

I got intruiged trying to figure out what may or may not be going through XW's head these days and tracked down your first thread.

You said shortly after reading and reading some more, there were 4 steps (with you in #3, limbo) and the 4th being committing the actual PA.

Well, obviously my XW has gone the full monty. You also said that when the newness and excitement fade away, the WAS finds themselves right back in the type of R they ran from creating a viscious cycle the would lead to an 'emotional breakdown'.

I know at my times, I have said some nasty undeserving things of my XW in repsonse to things to things she had said/done. I sit here now very disheartened by what has transpired, but I don't hate her. I have always been concerned of her well being regardless. In reading what you said you didn't want to go through after going the distance and making your EA a PA, I feel completely sick to my stomach.
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Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11

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