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K4D #1812415 08/03/09 02:45 PM
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A good verse for today.

Psalm 37:5: Commit your way to the LORD, Trust also in Him, and He will do it.

Kevin


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M: 08/02/97
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1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
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K4D #1812466 08/03/09 04:23 PM
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Can people post to the thread Starting to get "It" #2 by LR1. He is in need of advice and nobody is really posting to him.

Kevin


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M: 08/02/97
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1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
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Originally Posted By: davidswife
Kevin,

I'm happy to hear that you were able to "be in the moment" yesterday, and that a day you were dreading turned out pretty well.

Good for you for bringing your girls to the dance studio and sharing that with them.

I'm proud of you, and that is not said lightly.

Thank-you for your kind words regarding my BIL, but there will be no recovery for him. Four to six weeks is what he has left, we're all praying for a peaceful passing, and that his pain can be kept manageable.

He's 49.

So keep up your good work, and if I'm not posting, know that I'm praying for your and yours.

Stacy


Stacy-see my post to you elsewhere...been there, done that, with bil's death, @ age 42, and it is NOT an easy task. Take care of yourself so you can be there for others too....

(( j ))


Sorry for the hijack but can't find Her thread...

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You are welcomed to hijack anytime especially for a situation like this with DW.

Kevin


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1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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So today, W contacted me for a few and unclocked me on IM to talk to me. She asked how the girls liked dancing last night and I told her they loved it. She was happy to hear that. She then asked if she could talk to the girls tonight. I said yes.

D11 and D7 both talked to her on the phone tonight for a few minutes each. Then D7 asked her if she wanted to talk to me and she said no. Not surprised.

I started my 100 push ups program tonight. I am in the second level. I couldn't believe how much strength I have lost over time. The program will be excellent for me. I also started the squats program as well. That way I am working my upper and lower body. I could definitely feel the burning tonight. Thats good. This will get me back in shape. We also have an athletic center here that I was told closed at 6 each day. But I went over there tonight after I saw people in it after 6 and it was open. So I will start going there and lifting weights as well.

It is interesting this hot and cold thing from W. For weeks she was cold. Then last night she was warm. Tonight she didn't want to talk to me. Who knows. But I am doing things for me and my girls. I'm going back on a diet tomorrow of lots of vegetables. I am starting to put a little bit of weight back on the belly that needs to come off ASAP and stay off. At least I know how to do it the healthy way. I have a friend that has been on an eat to live diet and she has been giving me some stuff and showing me recipes so I am starting to do it now to.

We are busy at work again since the cycle has started again and that is a good thing. I would prefer to be busy.

I have to call the counselor back in the morning for the kids as she did not contact me back today like I was expecting her to.

My electric bill doubled this month and the AC doesn't even work that great. Nice. But at least I have a roof over my head.

I have to many books to read. People have been giving me books upon books and I'm just like wooa. I can't read all of these at once. I will just have to take it one at a time.

DW, I don't know if you are reading this, but I hope you and your family are doing ok tonight. I prayed for yall again.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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My girls are excited that they get to see their mom tomorrow. D11 was a little worried about telling me that. I told her not to worry about that and I am glad they get to see their mom tomorrow. I told her I completely understand and I do understand. This is between me and W, not the kids. I have no problem at all with them wanting to see their mom. I'm glad they do. They need to know that they are loved by both of us because they are.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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Originally Posted By: K4D

I started my 100 push ups program tonight. I am in the second level. I couldn't believe how much strength I have lost over time. The program will be excellent for me. I also started the squats program as well. That way I am working my upper and lower body. I could definitely feel the burning tonight. Thats good. This will get me back in shape. We also have an athletic center here that I was told closed at 6 each day. But I went over there tonight after I saw people in it after 6 and it was open. So I will start going there and lifting weights as well.

Kevin


Cool, I have been enjoying the 100 pushup challenge and may start the squat one in September. Keep working on you and the kids....


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I will see my W for a few minutes when we exchange the kids tonight. I will keep my emotions in check.

She has posted on her IM state that Monday was a great day and a great person bought her sushi. Of course that makes me wonder even though it shouldn't. Interesting that she would point that out on her status.

I wanted to put on mine that YOU HAVE A GREAT HUSBAND THAT WOULD BUY YOU SUSHI. But I didn't. I just went back to working. We are pretty swamped this week and next so I don't know how much I will be on here.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...
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I can't disagree Wifey and CG and 25 and DW.

I did show very honest concern for my W and her health and I expressed that to her last night. She knows I don't want anything to happen to her.

Glad to hear it.
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As far as the timelines go. I didn't actually join this site until December 30th, 2008. So this would be my 8th month on here. W announced she wanted a D back in September 2008 which was the second bomb and never changed her mind since. She originally wanted a D in February 2008, but then we reconciled the week we were down in Florida for my mom's funeral in April. I did grieve over my mom. But at the same time, I was somewhat side tracked by my W's wanting a D and then us reconciling. I had mixed emotions on everything through that period. Everything seemed to be going well, so I thought from April until September when she started seeing OM. Nothing has been the same since.


Were you drinking then, or promising to quit?


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W doesn't know that I am going to see the priest each week. I haven't told her because I didn't think it would be recieved well. So she thinks that I am going to counseling each week. I had told her earlier on that I was going to AA. I guess I need to start going back and work through this 12 step process.

You guess. That doesn't souund like a committment. When are you going to start back?

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I am waiting to hear back from the C regarding my girls. Once I have more info, I will bring it up to W. I think my D11 needs it to, not just D7. D11 seems to have a lot of anger and I'm sure some of it is stimming from the current situation. We were talking about Jesus coming back some day and she said she doesn't know why Jesus would want to take her. We talked some more. But that kind of startled me that she thinks that. That says there are some things going on in her mind that need to be worked out.

D7 asked me this morning if I gave W the card. I said yes. She then asked if W liked it. I said I don't know and that I gave it to her as she was leaving. Then D7 asked me if W gave me a card. I said no, but that W has been very busy with her friend being sick from this thing she contracted. D11 was just quiet.

I talked to my dad this morning after I dropped off my girls. He is doing well at my sisters place. They are all doing good. He is just getting things set up how he likes on the 3rd floor of their house.

Yes, I know I need to continue to work no myself in order to have a chance at my W again down the road.
So when does the work start? You have made some progress, what comes next?


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Hint, hint, nag, nag.


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