God is there for you but he has sent you *many* positive things that you will not participate in, stick to or even give a chance.
I find it most alarming that you think you have detached from your W.
Have all the faith you want but use that faith as a source of strength to use the resources that are being provided to you. If you use BOTH in conjunction with one another you will have a life altering experience. Why wont you even consider it?
You say you cant read books because your mind wanders so you listen to books on audio. That alone should tell you that you need guidance and structure on how to focus with multiple resources.
With all due respect you are started to sound so preachy its getting hard to even read your posts. Its avoidance and until you realize that, realize you *can* do both, I think your support system will drain quickly. Sorry to say that but I think it is true.
Its almost insulting to ask you questions that are reasonble and have merit and meaning and for you to respond with a preachy post about religion. The more you throw yourself into this mindset the further back you set yourself UNLESS you begin to incorporate more solution based tactics. So far your plan has been religion and pills. You need more. We all do. We are ALL still trying to work with you but you block us at every turn. How much longer do you think that will continue?
This may sound ugly but its the harsh truth. We have asked how we can help you and you say be patient. We have been patient. Very patient. But you need to put some work in the process as well and that work invovles solutions that are therapy based on structure, guidance and proven methods and techniques.
So CG, did you get an answer to any of this? I didn't get answers or comments or an acknowlegment to any of my last post here either....hmmm. Nope, no patterns here. j-
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I read everything you both said. I'm not sure what answer you are looking for from me. It seems as if I am not delved into the C or AA then I am not making any progress. I guess focusing on other things and reading/listening to books is not enough.
How can you help me? I have gotten more help from feedback and resources here than I could ever have imagined. The support here has been amazing. It has been a blessing. I don't know what would have happened to me if not for this site. I have learned a great deal from this site.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
"Change Your Life and Everyone In It" by Michelle Weiner-Davis.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Ya, I found that excercise is a real mood booster for me. And I desparately need to lift weights. The only thing is I don't want to take time away from my girls. But I need to probably lift at least 3 times a week. I will have to work something out on the weeks when I have them so I can continue to get into shape. Walking is great and I enjoy it, but it doesn't do anything for the upper body.
I'm gonna run by there tonight. I printed out a free 3 day pass.
Kevin
Kev, here is something you can do at home, even with your girls... http://www.hundredpushups.com/ I'm on week 4 and its been fun and quiet challenging!!
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
That is an excellent site. You probably just saved me a bunch of money and time away from my girls. I'm going to do the challenge for push ups and squats. 6 weeks each. Nice. I love it.
Has it been producing results in muscle definition for you yet?
Tonight I spent an evening with Kevin. I do have to say what a fantastic guy Kevin is. He isn't so bad to be alone with.
I came home after work and ate some left overs from last nights dinner. Then I drove to LA Fitness and talked to them and got a tour of the place. I made no decisions tonight even though they tried to work it to get me to make a decision tonight. Typical sales people at a gym. Then I went to the nature trail I have been walking and walked 4 miles. Then I came home, picked up a 5 for $5 Arbys sandwiches and came back home and now I am typing on here.
During my 4 mile walk I thought about many things, none of which are worth mentioning. But I did do some praying and just analyzing of different things. I was also thanking the Lord for my blessings.
Its quiet tonight. But that is ok. I shouldn't have eaten all of those sandwiches, but they sure were good.
Tomorrow I get my kids back. I am going to see if I can get them to do the 6 week challenge with me. Although I don't know if they can since they will only be with me every other week. I can still give it a try with them though. I'm doing it myself none the less.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Hey Kev, not much in definition but am getting stronger, also I lift weights at the gym in my office building. I also bought the book and it just arrived. It has more exercises and ideas than there are on the web site. Good luck with your training.
Me-44 WAW-42 (ILYBNILWY) S-16 S-14 M-10/17/1992 T23 Met OM 10/10/08; Bomb 12/27/08; Moved in with OM 01/27/09 Me stronger and happier everyday!
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Maybe I could write a book. What to write on though? I could put together a book of my recipes. I could write a self help book. How to get help for yourself. How to know if you need help. If your life is in shambles, maybe you need some help.
hmm...
I could write a book on how to train your kids when you yourself are not trained. People might want to see my credentials though. Well, I can prove I am not trained and I can prove I have kids. The book could reflect the idea that we learn together.
I could write a book on America's best buffets. But then I might need to do more traveling than I can afford right now. That book will probably have to wait.
I've got it. I can write a book on "How To Suck At Golf". Aha. I can definitely write about that.
Putting one thumb in front of the other. Now that is a catchy title.
Ideas, ideas, ideas...
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Why not start out with something simple like a blog. You can get a free account at Blogger and write about whatever you like. It will help sharpen your writing skills and it may help you with your focus. Make a goal to post 3 entries per week.
A self help book? What would your advice be exactly?
You always seem to have so many ideas but you go for the BIG ideas right off the bat therefore nothing gets done. First it was the BA job, then the expensive scooter club and now writing a book.
Take your BIG idea and simplify it so you can accomplish it. If writing intersts you start your blog tonight. They are free, very easy to set up and it will at least give you an attainable focus for this latest idea.
