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#1827285 - 08/27/09 01:47 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Thanks.

I don't know how well I handled the whole thing. But it is great that she is a Pro-Marriage C.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1829131 - 08/31/09 10:05 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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The rest of my week and weekend was ok. W got her new vehicle and showed it to me. I took D7 to her dance class on Saturday morning. W also showed up to watch her. We talked some about D7 and W's best friend. We went for a ride in her new vehicle after and got D7 some lunch. Saturday night W picked up D7 to take with her to best friends house. Her best friends family ended up getting sick with a 24 hour virus so W and D7 left and went home Saturday night after getting there for a bit.

Sunday morning me and D11 went to mass together and then went home. W dropped off D7 for the afternoon with me so she could go run errands and go to a movie with her friends. I don't recall me and W discussing this but she insisted we did so I took D7 for her. D11 decided she wanted to stay with me for another week because she had just felt like she hadn't gotten enough time in with me. She called her mom and asked if she could. Her mom said she could this one time stay with me til Thursday. D11 was happy.

Saturday night D11 and I made pizza's and then went to Panera Bread and got desert. Then we went to the store and rented a movie. Then we came home and watched it and ordered a couple more to watch together before going to sleep. D11 is loving spending time with just me and her.

At one point D11 brings up the trip to Destin Florida again to me that she asked both me and her mom if we could all take together. She then tells me "you know dad, there are some romantic sunsets in Destin that you and mom would enjoy together. Know what I mean dad?". I was a little stunned but thought ya, that would be great if that happens.

Today W and D7 are home sick. They caught the virus last night and were both throwing up and are still fighting it. I am hoping that me and D11 don't get it. I guess I will know more tonight. D11 has her chior tonight.

Yesterday when W came over to pick up D7 she said that she might want my help in her picking players in her fantasy football draft last night. I said ok. Then I never heard from her.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1829139 - 08/31/09 10:11 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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D11 seems to really be bonding towards me lately. She told me last night that she loves me and that I am the best dad in the world.

That made me feel good. I think that she loves that I spend time with her and I focus on her.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1829163 - 08/31/09 10:38 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Kev - That all sounds great. Keep it up.

Your WAW is starting to feel a little more comfortable around you. Which is good. She might even be starting to TRUST that you are NOT going to DISRESPECT her boundaries again and BE "SAME OLD KEVIN".... This will take time though. Just keep on being NICE BUT whenever your BOUNDARIES are challenged it is CRITICAL that you RESPECTFULLY stand by them. She will eventually RESPECT your BOUNDARIES but based on your PAST habits it will take time. RESPECT this time and HER SPACE and you might, might, might, have a chance. Regardless, of her though these changes NEED to be FOR YOU. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT.... If they are for her then they will just lead to EXPECTATIONS and RESENTMENT and Kevin repeating Kevins Cycle. Break the CYLCE Kevin. Keep on going to your meetings. Keep on bringing the girls to their meetings. DONT LET KEVIN DECIDE IF HE NEEDS THESE MEETINGS. KEVIN has NOT proven that he is CAPABLE of these choices yet. LET KEVIN PROVE THIS OVER TIME.

Keep it up. Dont fall back. Keep climbing.

PMA


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#1829183 - 08/31/09 11:05 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: PMA_Baby!]
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Thanks PMA,

I am going to keep doing everything I am supposed to. I'm not going to fall back again.

I am telling myself as the bible says to be patient and wait on the Lord. In the mean time, I am doing what I am supposed to be doing.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1829226 - 08/31/09 11:55 AM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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"Wait for the LORD; be strong and take heart and wait for the LORD." Psalm 27:14

"For I know the plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart." Jeremiah 29:11-13

"And the Lord's servant must not quarrel; instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in the hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses and escape from the trap of the devil, who has taken them captive to do his will." 2 Timothy 2:24-26

"It is not the healthy who need a doctor, but the sick. I have not come to call the righteous, but sinners." Mark 2:17

"For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. And we will be ready to punish every act of disobedience, once your obedience is complete." 2 Corinthians 10:3-6

"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy— think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you." Philippians 4:8-9

"I wait for you, O Lord; you will answer, O Lord my God." Psalm 38:15

Delay is God saying "It is not time yet." Will you stand in the gap interceding for your spouse and family?

God's delays are not God's denials!

"Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you; he rises to show you compassion. For the LORD is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!" Isaiah 30:18

"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up." Galatians 6:9

"Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us." Ephesians 3:20

"Then Jesus told his disciples a parable to show them that they should always pray and not give up." Luke 18:1

"Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord." Psalm 27:14

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1829242 - 08/31/09 12:27 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
I just thought I would post some encouraging scriptures for inspiration.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1829305 - 08/31/09 01:37 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
Goodfight Offline
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Registered: 04/29/09
Posts: 737
Loc: PA
Hi Kevin,

Had a terrible week. Would you please jump over to my thread? I posted everything there! My S tried to take his life on Monday night.

Thanks

Lost
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M 41
H 35
D 12
S 18
Separated 11/08

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#1829328 - 08/31/09 02:04 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Goodfight]
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Registered: 02/26/07
Posts: 3293
Kevin, I plan on reading up on your sitch but haven't had a chance to do so yet. Thanks for the scriptures (a couple of posts above). Have you read Hosea and Gomer?
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Me:50, W:45
D:20,S:18,S:16
Married:18
Bomb 9/27/06
Separated 11/27/06
Divorced 10/6/08
Leaving it up to God

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#1829341 - 08/31/09 02:18 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: missmyfriend]
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
missmyfriend,

I don't know that it is really worth reading up on my stitch unless you want to learn what not to do. I am turning myself around now, but it has taken a long time to start moving in the right direction.

I am glad you found the scriptures inspirational.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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