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#1822743 - 08/20/09 05:14 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
CityGirl Offline
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Registered: 04/20/09
Posts: 2612
The job interview is later today. It will be a phone interview since the person hiring is in Charlotte NC.

I'm doing ok. Just wondering if there is a way to get my W to go to Retrouvaille. We have a session coming up in Forth Worth in October and January.


Lets break this down... you have a job interview later on this afternoon, a phone interview no less, and right now your thoughts are focused and you are wondering if you can figure out a way to get your W to go to Retrouvaille with you? Does that make any sense at all?

Phone interviews are often more difficult than face to face interviews. Instead of allowing your W to fill your headspace AGAIN when you should be focusing on YOU and YOUR future and getting a better job, it seems we are back to square 1.

What sort of research have you done on how to kick butt on a phone interview? Do you have all your materials ready for the phone interview? Have you created an outline of questions to ask, what you can bring to the company in terms of achievements and not just your stock/canned answers? Do you know the ins and outs of the company you are being interviewed by?

There are thousands of sites and articles on the Internet about the "new" way to interview via the phone or online. Its a whole different animal. Instead of looking up dates for Retrouvaille and wondering how you can rope your very staunch WAS to go, why not use the next few hours for preparation so you can ace this interview for YOU and YOUR FUTURE.

Like I said before - you are scared of any progress you make. You project a bit of detachement and it seems like you start to "get it" then you back away and return to your old habbits. You are afraid to detach. You know how, you know what to do but you just are too fearful and that will get you nowhere.

Use the next few hours in a wise fashion for YOU. Good luck w/the interview.

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#1822841 - 08/20/09 07:40 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: CityGirl]
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Registered: 01/23/09
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Good luck in your interview. You certainly could use some good news.

I've read this whole thing and I should just shut up and move on, but this is like watching a train wreck. I just can't seem to look away. So here it goes and I am not doing this to be a jerk. If I ever behave as you are I hope that someone will come along and shake the hell out of me until they get my attention. So this is my attempt to really reach you.

Let's look rationally at your situation. Your wife is sleeping with other men and finds all interaction with you as disgusting. She loathes you. She has no respect for her marriage or for you as her husband (or as a person really). She is going to divorce you and probably try to ruin you financially. Why? Because she can and you do things like that to people you despise. And you will probably help her do it just so you can be in her space a little while longer. And all the while you will be maintaining magical thinking that if you just say or do the right things she will come running back into your arms and reconcile. That might be the way it works on Bravo, but it isn’t likely to happen here in real life.

You know I do feel for you. It can't be easy living in your headspace.
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I'm a man . . .
But I can change . . .
If I have to . . .
I guess . . .

The Man's Prayer - Red Green

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#1822849 - 08/20/09 07:53 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Esox]
aliveandkicking Offline
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Registered: 04/15/09
Posts: 2917
Esox, it has all been said before.
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#1822852 - 08/20/09 07:56 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: aliveandkicking]
Esox Offline
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Registered: 01/23/09
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alive,

I know, I just thought . . . maybe . . . just maybe . . . this time . . . it just might . . .
_________________________
I'm a man . . .
But I can change . . .
If I have to . . .
I guess . . .

The Man's Prayer - Red Green

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#1822860 - 08/20/09 08:05 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Esox]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Prayer, faith, change, and patience.

When put together, there isn't much that can stop it.

Kevin
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Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1822862 - 08/20/09 08:08 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
CityGirl Offline
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Registered: 04/20/09
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But you dont change. You pray, you have faith.. I am not so sure about the patience part but there is NO change. Any tiny glimmer of change quickly reverts you back to your old ways.

What did you do to prepare for the interview?

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#1822868 - 08/20/09 08:17 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: CityGirl]
aliveandkicking Offline
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Registered: 04/15/09
Posts: 2917
You know, Kevin specifically asked for only positive feedback and I think we should respect that.

It is a bit dysfunctional to keep posted the same stuff on here and expecting a different outcome.

I think we should see what Kevin figures out when left to his own devices.

And seriously, how's he ever going to feel respected coming here?

Consider me a walkaway poster, I want out of this unhealthy dynamic. wink
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#1822871 - 08/20/09 08:18 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: CityGirl]
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Registered: 01/23/09
Posts: 131
There is nothing wrong with prayer and faith. It is when you think you know what God wants for you, and you are insistent upon imposing your will on God, now that's a problem. When you continue to pray for what you want, and you continue to have faith that God will do what you want, you really aren’t submitting to God’s will. You are using prayer as a wish machine. You perhaps should have faith that God knows what you need and he will see to it that you get it.
_________________________
I'm a man . . .
But I can change . . .
If I have to . . .
I guess . . .

The Man's Prayer - Red Green

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#1822931 - 08/20/09 09:13 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: Esox]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
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Kevin needs to hear one thing. IT IS OVER, Kevin. She isn't coming back.


This from Gucci on Orich's thread. Since his is locked up. I will respond here. Ye of little faith... It isn't over. The reconciliation process is only beginning. Rejoice ministries says that we who continue to have faith and pray and stand when nobody else believes, we will look peculiar to those people. But when the reconcilation is complete, we will give all praise and glory to God.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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#1822933 - 08/20/09 09:15 PM Re: K4D Rising #4 [Re: K4D]
K4D Offline
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Registered: 12/30/08
Posts: 3975
Quote:
There is nothing wrong with prayer and faith. It is when you think you know what God wants for you, and you are insistent upon imposing your will on God, now that's a problem. When you continue to pray for what you want, and you continue to have faith that God will do what you want, you really aren’t submitting to God’s will. You are using prayer as a wish machine. You perhaps should have faith that God knows what you need and he will see to it that you get it.


Not that I want to get back into this because I don't. But God created M and said he hates D. Therefore we know that His will is for our M's to succeed. And I do ask His will be done, not mine after I ask for my M to be restored.

Kevin
_________________________
Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...

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