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i agree, however, he served me last year....the only thing he may be served with is the child support petition, although it looks like im leaning towards the motion in supreme court rather than family...

im loving that it appears he fears me, im loving that he appears so pissed off that im not "cooperating" i.e., doing whatever he wants, whatever he thinks is right...im just loving it.

even funnier, i can threaten to call the police and he has to take me seriously! he backtracked his words so fast yesterday when i said i would call the police if he didnt bring son right home....


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t:10 years
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Doodles...

I've never posted to you before, but have been following along, partially. I have to post now, because, I am just so impressed with the way you're so courageous in dealing with your M, in doing what's best for your S5 and you. (run on sentence, but can't think of another way to say it!)

Way to go! Keep On Keepin' On!


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I FILED
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gee thanks! thats means alot to me! its about time i get courageous and deal huh?

no really, i held out so long, kept things as friendly and calm as possible but it reaches a point where u just have no choice.

likes ive said, i may appear as a doormat when it comes to the affection for my husband, but when it comes to money, i cannot let him walk all over us. its one thing when i didnt know about the financial problems, but now that i know, i have to be tough and do what is right.

we all do.


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Rock on, sistah! wink


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Mamabear. smirk

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A person can only take so much before they stand up and fight for what they believe in. You, my friend, have finally started standing up for what YOU believe in. I am very proud of you.

So when is the big move to the new place?


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I will know tomorrow when I am moving - sometime in the next 2 weeks I would say...and I am looking forward to it.

My good friend said something so valuable to me, she said it is actually a good thing that H has been acting up lately because it makes it easier for me to move foward with things I need to do to protect myself as well as be happy about moving.

She is a very wise and valuable friend.


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That is a very wise and valuable friend to have. It's always good to have one or two of those kind of friends around when you need them.

I hope that you will get to move sooner than later. It would be nice for you to begin your days at a new place. I sure hope your son likes it there. Have you checked out for schools in that area? Or is it close enough without having to change schools?

You have so much on your plate and you are handling it as well as can be expected. Keep your chin up hon. Good things are just around the corner for you, I am sure.


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im only moving 10 minutes away but it is a different school. top school district and my son has one friend in his grade in that school...i will know today when im moving!

i have to say, after h's last episode, i am actually more turned off by him than ever. not even interested in thinking about him or the situation...i guess this really is a process that no one can force and u cant force upon yourself, just has to happen at its own pace. and it feels as though it has.


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Very true. It's such a personal process isn't it. Glad you're getting stronger and stronger.

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