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heh,

One day sooner than later. I ironically received a e-mail from S12's teacher requesting I assist him with his homework. Being in special needs he really hasn't had all that much homework. But then again, last year, XW would consistantly say he never ahd any. Well, well, well, what did I find in his bookbag upon taking over the dialy routine when she walked? HOMEWORK. shocked

And that is where his teacher is coming from, he started to excel at a sustantial rate when under my watch. And I know so long as S11 sits down at the table with a book and sheet of paper, 9 out of 10 times she's "too busy" to actually check and make sure he's done his work.

So, the dilemma of the day. I obviously need to speak with her about meeting the boys up after school. As far as I understand, they "go to the library when school let's out" until Xw picks them up. That could very well be a lie, who knows? but I do pass through town on my way home about 45 minutes after they get out, so I would have no problem meeting them and making sure their work is done and helping them out as I DO miss it.

I'm of the impression to just write a letter as outlined in the parenting agreement. I feel a conversation could quickly spiral out of control.

Oh, the challenges never cease. frown


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
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Quote:
Oh, the challenges never cease.


You can say that again!


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PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
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Yeah, well, busted out the JPA and this stuff is going down written as it should be, with all the legalities sprinkled in as a nice little reminder, Mr. Nice Guy doesn't live here anymore.


Me 35/XW 33
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M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
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eeehhh hell, I can't find a way to write all this junk out without it getting to indepth or seeming like a "personal attack'.


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S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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It sounds like to me that whatever you say, it will be seen as a personal attack. Just keep it business. You can't be responsible for your XW's emotions. If she throws a fit, it's her problem, not yours. You're just trying to take care of your kids as per the divorce agreement.

Mr Nice guy or not, stay cool and take care of what needs to be, morally and legally.


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Well,

Sound the trumpets and raise the flags, war has resumed.

Texted Xw that teachers were concerned of homework performance, kept it sweet and discreet. No reply.

So after a few hours, texted again,"ok, guess it doesn't concern you"

Finally got a reply"I'm busy phone dead, doing homework, laundry and baths, I know"

Feeling no sympathy, I shoot:: "well, you wanted custodial parent, yet I'm the only one talking with the school".

Reply "b/s [censored}, father of the year goodbye"

I simply reply, "ok, violate the parenting agreement again, no problem".

After that 3 calls in a row, all declined, and 2 texts making too much sense to know that they weren't from S12 as alleged.

So, off we go, offical complaint being filed tomorrow. She seems to have completely forgot who she's dealing with. I carried the hatchet against my parents for 20 years, what makes her think that after all she's done even worse than them, I'll let her slide?

At last unleash the dogs of war!

This time, it's BEYOND personal.


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M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
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I don't mean to sound harsh, but I laid down and 'protected' XW as so many have put it in the D and I did, I can't do that this time.


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S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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Let her have it Dylan. Just know that she is going to be spewing vitriol at you at every turn. Be prepared.


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Thanks Mish. Believe me, after the first go at it, I know entirely all too mcuh to expect the unexpected of the woman. Heh, bad part for her is this time she won't have her little minions (BIL and renter) to report my every move since I'm not in the house anymore and conjour up a crock pot of les.

Funny, the blowing my phone up ended with a text I replied to "from S12":"dad what are you doing dad are you at home or at work"

I said: "Assuming this Joe, sorry, I'm out, love 'dad of the year".

Like I said, when the D went through, I still had feelings for X and they royally got in the way. Now, in what 4 short months, she has shown nothing but clear disregard for the rules, has continually added insult to injury of the boys, just plain out doesn't care. I simply do not understand what she wanted custody for? I mean, you want to live the party life, fine, go right ahead, I'll take the kids, no problem, go about your merry little way. Why would you want the hassle of school work, preparing meals, monitoring, bathing, cleaning, disciplining? If I were in her shoes and all I cared about was me, I would have said, fine take em. I don't get it.


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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LOL, XW's horoscope for today:

"You're stirring things up to get them just right. Take responsibility for the mess you're making."


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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