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So I'm e-mailing S11's teachers the "nice to meet you and please remember I don't see items sent home, email, call, (heck smoke signal me)" blah, blah blah. Then I get to S12's. I bite the bullet and text XW if she had in fact gone and I didn't see her there.

Nope, "thought you were going to handle it".

So, atleast she responded so I didn't look like a complete dingy. Kept it nice and polite in regards to both kids teachers, "as you may or may not know..... we're recently D', both share mutual concern", blah blah blah.

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UNBELIEVABLE, she wants to argue with me over a event she didn't even attend as to what was supposed to be going on?!?!?! wtf crazy

My, my, my. The craziness never stops does it? And yet I spoke cordially and nice of her? Sheesh, no wonder I'm stressed out.

EDIT - Better yet, the kids live with YOU. YOU are in charge of their daily routine.
YOU don't want to speak civily like adults with ME, and yet I'M the only one concerned to take care of yet another thing YOU should be upmost concerned about?

pughhh, and to think, i almost didn't go to do as directed and avoid a stressful situation.


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
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vent/rant/the heck with it........

Goodness gracious, I can't get over the unbelievable that it should be expected rheotric of that woman. "I'm taking the kids, I can handle them, I don't need you, I've done this, and I've done that........"

And now, no initiative, waits til last minute for everything and that's even if she does anything and they are left to suffer.

Blah! She's like a BJ from a quadroplegic, all mouth and no hands on. eek


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S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
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Blah! She's like a BJ from a quadroplegic, all mouth and no hands on.


OMG! I just spit coffee all over my screen! PRICELESS!


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PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
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Yes, cynacism got the best of me as my sense of humor is in la-la land.

I don't know if I should wait and see IF the doc on Monday puts me on a anti-anxiety med or sends me to a dang shrink to get my head under wraps, but I feel the need to send a letter to XW to just cut the b/s with the kids. Our crap is done, finitto, over, out, in nuclear holucost. Why make them suffer because now she has a pent up rage over the fact that "my god, he left me, he really, really left me like this".

I don't know, I think we all need to get together and write up a "surviving manual", "tactics that work, and tactics that are destined for failure". And most of all, "what to expect when there's seemingly nothing more to be unexpected". I like it, might even resolve some of our financial woes? smirk

Anyway, an oddity this morning. I found a notebook that S12 never let out of his grasps for weeks. In it, he drew maps and representive pictures of I'm assuming where XW takes them, especially explicit maps (to his ability) even writing exit numbers and dead ends to the house down state. I don't know if he's trying to say something or what. When I saw him doodling in it my car a few weeks ago I was curious and he wouldn't let me see it, now all the sudden it was left behind at my place?

Even stranger, he drew a picture of a figure next to a car, the figure being OM as his name was over the figure, and S12 very heavily scratched out the picture?

I just don't know what to make of it just yet.


Me 35/XW 33
S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
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Dday, is your son in counceling? I'm not saying anything is wrong, but D is very hard on everyone and especially considering what your XW has said to him, he may benefit from it. I think you should talk to him about this 'map.'


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Oh I know things are wrong with both sons. S12 has develpomental issues courtesy of his "sperm donor". In fact he was stripped of all legal right to the name father, name removed from birth certificate and all. This was done to protect S12 from the truth. Sure we were to tell him one day MUCH fruther down the road and without the fact the kids family has been torn to shreds and all.

S12 was seeing a councelor last year on a 'need be' basis after OM just dropped him off at the playground for school and drove off. S12 proceeded to go to the train station and beg for money for a train. (Presumably to come to work as when I lived in town I took the train)

Anyway, the last few times dropping them off after our weekend, he has gotten more and more reluctant to return "home", getting depressed, crying and carrying on.

At this point, I pray to god that XW sees the turmoil they are going through and does something, anything, I don't care what to remedy it. The ball is in her court, she got what she wanted and what she thought was right for the kids. She's the one that gets a constant reminder everyday that although I was flawed at times, I wasn't such a bad father afterall was when she turned my defense of the kids best interest into a personal vendetta of her own.

I certainly plan to talk to him about it. Especially after S11 warned me to keep on eye on X about that delapetated house down there.


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M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
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Geez man. Can't you get full custody? Considering what I've heard, the situation is very bad for your kid's well being.
Do you keep records of all this? Who drops a kid off at the playground and leaves? What did you XW have to say about this?


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uggh,

Without rehashing all the details as there are so many and quite frankly is what caused amental breakdown Sunday that I'm just starting to rebound from and am for the first time feeling the dire physical effects of:

This whole thing was set up since day one, probably about 3/08, maybe even prior to that. Everyone who had something to gain from me 'losing' became X's best friend, well they were all partying together anyway so go figure, but anyway, they all showed up on the first day of court and sat on her side, even those who claimed they couldn't stand OM.

It became apparent as to why at each hearing, a new lie would come out of the wordwork: lyrics to songs I was doodling were contrued as "suicide notes", a picture of "my refridgerator" AFTER I left the house, "full of alcohol and no food in the house" are just the cake toppers that said I had a tough battle to fight.

So, I folded. I didn't want the kids in mediation and in a custody trial. I said 'fine, if you think you know what's best and have to stoop to these levels to ensure you get it, have at it'. I had every full and well thought that in time as it is now already in just 3 months, things would not be as X thought they would pan out.

Even with my support, X has some serious financial issues, more so than I do even after losing about half my income. She can't control them, and they won't let her either. They're getting the idea what happened here and what's right and what's wrong.

I really dont have to do much but make sure they do not get permanently damaged from X's antics, I reassure them every time I speak with them that I love them and care for them and surely their mother does too. I WILL NOT resolve to the leve of trash talk XW does with no regard. When they complain, all I can do shrug it off.

All I have said is, 'you have voices, if you're unhappy, speak up and be heard, you have every right to a happy and comforting lifestyle to grow and mature. If you're not happy now, you need to speak up.'

Eventually, I will not be surprised at all that XW voluntarily asks to change the custody agreement, actually from the little I see and hear of how life is, and that her happy little world she thought have has no chance to materialize, I'm surprised it hasn't happened all ready.


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S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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Dang it!

Just got an email from S11's PE teacher that he nearly had a detention (ALREADY) for non-prepardness, no uniform. We bought him 3!

uggh, will she ever learn? frown


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S13 & S12
M: 10/17/98
OM & S: 07/08
D final 06/09/09
12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing"
06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10
06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
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Ummmm.....I'm going to go with no. That would require her to step outside her selfishness.


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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