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#1681450 - 12/26/08 09:04 PM Re: My Story [Re: Tawnya]
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Yeah, MC makes me feel sort of bad - do you really love your W if you can drop her? He really does rock!

I think that it's probably just my emotions speaking - it's not so much the PA that bothers me, it's the PA coming after such a long hard fought battle where I set aside my personal life for 2+ years for NOTHING. My attorney from the dismissed divorce said she had never seen another man like me - not sure if she was complimenting or not! \:\)

Tawnya - I will believe her, the one thing about her is she is exceptionally honest - how funny is it that her one good trait at this time is pretty much making my divorce case?

I guess I will look at the good things in life! She is bringing our dog over in 2 hours, so we'll see what happens.

It just so happens that I have on new jeans, a really cool red shirt (her favorite color), and her favorite cologne on! I may go down, but I'm going down fighting and looking good!
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#1681462 - 12/26/08 09:30 PM Re: My Story [Re: JDOllie]
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Jon..you certainly have the "right" attitude brother!!
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#1681467 - 12/26/08 10:00 PM Re: My Story [Re: marriedCrazy]
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LOL Work it out {{{Jon}}}

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#1681498 - 12/26/08 11:29 PM Re: My Story [Re: Tawnya]
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HAHAHAHA!

Maniacal laughter. W just dropped off dog - she just opened front door to let him in, and hollered, "Thank you."

I was in the other room, so I walked out, and she saw me and said thanks, and started to shut the door, then pushed the door back open and did a quick up-down look, then said, "Bye" and left.

Hee hee, I made her double-take! What a glorious 10 seconds that was!
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#1681518 - 12/27/08 12:30 AM Re: My Story [Re: JDOllie]
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Woohoo..go you \:\) Told you that you would "work it"!

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#1681649 - 12/27/08 11:27 AM Re: My Story [Re: Tawnya]
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Journaling:

Thanks {{Tawnya}}!

Is it a sign of successful detaching when you aren't so much interested in making them change their mind, but are instead wanting to make them as sorry as possible about NOT changing their mind?

I have lost 19 pounds! I think having stomach flu probably accelerated that a couple of pounds. \:\) I hate not being able to work out, but I don't want to push it. I'm really glad that I'm not even hungry for cookies/candy/cake anymore. I almost never eat outside of meals.

My long-term goal is sort of out there, but I'm so pumped about it. W and I have taken kids to community pool last two summers, and I can't wait to walk up there in about 5 months with my shirt off, and watch W's eyes pop out at my chiseled and buff body - assuming everything remains the same. I've never gotten horribly fat, but have been lax last few years.

W didn't confirm/deny PA - I can't tell if she's not, and trying to hold it over me, or is, and just doesn't have the guts to tell me. The oddness of the situation seems to indicate she IS, but she has always been brutally honest, so her not saying seems to indicate she ISN'T? She said, "You're not part of my life, so I don't have to tell you." All signs point to it being true, but then she would just SAY so - she has always justified what she does by saying she has been honest about it.

Hah, anyway, I'm still loving that double-take!

Well, I'm moving on - I've expressed thoughts, and I'm not going to hang over it. I asked her to have the guts to be honest with me, and she did not respond, so fine.

As I will continue to say, "I deserve to be treated better."

PMA and hot bod, here I come!
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#1681656 - 12/27/08 11:41 AM Re: My Story [Re: JDOllie]
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Go you!!

I hate she didn't tell you one way or another..as long as you are at peace with it either way, I guess I wouldn't push it \:\)

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#1681669 - 12/27/08 12:11 PM Re: My Story [Re: Tawnya]
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Originally Posted By: Jon
Is it a sign of successful detaching when you aren't so much interested in making them change their mind, but are instead wanting to make them as sorry as possible about NOT changing their mind?


It is successful detaching when you are not wanting to make them do ANYTHING. Your just letting them live their life without worrying about it; you're only concerned with your own and your kids.

That's my opinion!!
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#1681688 - 12/27/08 12:53 PM Re: My Story [Re: marriedCrazy]
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Yep, I agree.

I guess the cool thing is that although stuff still bothers me - I don't think I would be human if it didn't - but it's for a couple of hours instead of a couple of weeks.

Also, the fact that I can have a goal that is 5 months out, and I'm not really concerned about what happens in the meantime, is pretty cool to me, so I'm pretty much following what you say.

Also, I know EA and probably PA is not going to go well - when the single positive thing OM has is "a good listener", then things aren't destined to go well, especially because OM is just extremely introverted. \:\)

Best part is that I'm just laughing about OM - honestly, from my core, I don't care, I'm just patiently waiting on W to fall flat.

I'm very happy where I am, love my kids - we are growing closer every single day!

I had this thought yesterday - I think AmyM asked me why I was so positive, and how I was when I first got on here. I was pretty down, but something happened, and I'm not sure what triggered it, but I "found myself". When I did, I realized I deserved a lot better!
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#1681692 - 12/27/08 01:02 PM Re: My Story [Re: JDOllie]
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but I "found myself". When I did, I realized I deserved a lot better!


And that is the key to the whole process of DB'ing. Now what happens is under your control; not hers.
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