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well H called, dont have the details, but i guess they have been arguing all morning because again, she has backed out of us seeing S this weekend.

anyone got some bail money and gas to come to ks and get me out? LOL!


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What is the status of the paternity test? Has that happened? I missed a bunch because of my own mess this week, but that will answer a bunch of questions and also give H the legal right to have unfettered access to S. She cannot do this if he is the legal father!


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hey LE, check your email, I sent it to you.

H and OW are still battling. sigh, I so wanna battle, hmmm cant i pretty please? this is the part of being big that isnt fun lol!


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hey bg that email was adorable


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Hi kel

how are ya?


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hey Baby,

you know, I believe you definitely should NOT be in the fight. You just need to be the cheerleader. Most of the time, I think the man wants to fix things himself, and do it his way of course, and if you try to step in, it will just allow him to think that you feel he is incapable of fixing it, therefore instead of building him up, you end up tearing him down. I did this a lot with my H over the years. Now of course if your usually the one who does not try to take control of things, or tries to fix things, and it is a 180 for you, then I'd be for it... but I just know that you are the type to step in...so it would not be a 180. I think for you, the 180 is to step aside. right?

plus, it will sometimes feel relieving to let it go, and realize you don't have to take control of it.

Now, I do think that you can be creative to help guide your H, for instance on the paternity test.

so, are you getting thru the cold? it wasn't too aweful here today. I drove the kids to see xmas lights which was cool. woulda liked H to have gone, but he watched football of course...

and speaking of football! Go Steelers!!! boo Titans!


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Hey Sis. Hope today was better than it sounds like it was.

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well H called, dont have the details, but i guess they have been arguing all morning because again, she has backed out of us seeing S this weekend.


Get used to this I'm afraid...he is her bargaining chip. Emotional blackmail has been a very powerful tool so far. Its going to be a hard habit for her to break, if ever.
Don't get sucked in, just take care of you.

Glad I could make you laugh a little...


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Morning Namesake,
I agree with the very good advice of everyone above. The OW will yo-yo all of you until you have some legal standing that says she can't. Encourage your H to start working on that.

Now, speaking of sports....did anyone watch the Spartans yesterday? Great basketball! Go green!!

Well, I have a Christmas celebration with my parents today. I have nothing ready, so I have to start doing something.

Everyone stay warm and safe. Keep breathing and let the Lord bring you peace.


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Hey BG- Well the Chiefs lose again! Glad I wasn't there this week. TOOOO DANG COLD!!!!! BRRRRR! I hope you are having a peaceful day today. Take care of yourself, and don't get dragged in anymore than you have to be!


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Ok lady, haven't heard from you. What's going on other than the normal stuff. Are you ready for Christmas?


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