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#1541438 - 08/01/08 12:22 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
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Oh by the way, the massage was great!!!! It did release a lot of stress. And yes the cake does sound good, I can't wait to try it.

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#1542153 - 08/01/08 01:10 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
yellowrose Offline
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nlt

I don't know what to think about the conversation with your BIL. Your BIL is coming to pick it up? Are you going to be there? One think that I did think about when I was reading your post is that maybe he was trying to see how you were doing or maybe your h asked him to check on you and the only excuse to contact you was the bed. I just don't know and you can never tell with any of them. That was just my thoughts. I could be very wrong about it.

Y

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#1542278 - 08/01/08 01:49 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: yellowrose]
addie Offline
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Registered: 02/05/08
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Nlt,
You did great with the conversation with BIL, not asking about your H. I'm proud of you. If you do see BIL when he comes to pick up the bed act upbeat and pleasant. It most certainly will get back to H.
Enjoy the day!!! We all know what your wish will be when you blow out the candles on the cake.
The massage was just what you needed.
_________________________
Me47
H46
S13
M16
Piecing since May/09

"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz

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#1542796 - 08/01/08 04:58 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: addie]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
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YR & Addie!

Thank you for posting! I will not be here when BIL comes to get the bed. He said he was going to keep it for H's son whenever he wants it. I have a feeling he wanted to get those cabinets & sell them to someone. But then again H may have wanted him to check on me. Just not really sure.

I couldn't believe I didn't ask about H, I wanted to so bad but I was good!

I just think it was really weird that he wanted to give me his new email address. He has never done that before not even to my H.

I haven't heard anything from H, but I really didn't expect to, unless he said something when he sent the alimony check. I won't get the mail until Monday. Just wishful thinking but I know it is too early. I am rather sad today, I really miss him!

Oh, don't you know what my wish will be!!!

Thank you all again so much for being here & also your advice. I was in church today, it was really good & they all sang happy birthday to me.

(((HUGS)))

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#1543271 - 08/02/08 12:37 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
glamgirl Offline
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Registered: 04/28/07
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NLT even though your sitch seems daunting. There would seem to be a peace about it as well. Meaning that at least you are not doing the dance.

Like coming over being nice, working on the m, but not working on the m. Should you call or e-mail or leave them be.

In your case you don't see your h weekly so their is not that weekly pain that you go through when they leave.

I have often thought of just packing up and moving away. It seems like it would be so much easier. I know that is not the right thing since we have kids, but when it gets overwhelming and hopeless fleeing seems like a good idea.

Enjoy your freedom and peace for now and let God speak to your heart. Hugs!
_________________________
Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"

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#1543278 - 08/02/08 12:40 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: glamgirl]
MidwesternGirl Offline
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 7941
Loc: SW USA
glam:

you hit the nail on the head. it is true.
_________________________
The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19

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#1543279 - 08/02/08 12:40 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: glamgirl]
happynow Offline
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glamgirl,

Thank you so much! Yes, that is right I don't have to see him & get so upset when he leaves. I just wish I could hear from him & see if he is all right! I just worry about him.

We told each other everything & it is so hard not knowing anything about him now.

It would be hard on the kids if you did move away. We don't have kids & that is good that we don't have to deal with that but also bad b/c I don't have contact with him at all.

I'm doing my best to be still & let God!


(((HUGS)))

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#1543280 - 08/02/08 12:41 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: MidwesternGirl]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
SF,

I can't even imagine what you are going thru right now!!!

((((HUGS))))

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#1543283 - 08/02/08 12:46 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
glamgirl Offline
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Registered: 04/28/07
Posts: 3481
NLT even though I see my h weekly, I really don't know what he is doing or what is going through his head. The only thing I know is he doesn't eat healthy and he sleeps alot.

So really what do I know. He really doesn't share with me. His choice. I have not been good about listening and just validating. I always seem to put my opinion in there. Working on this.
_________________________
Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"

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#1543287 - 08/02/08 12:50 AM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: glamgirl]
MidwesternGirl Offline
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 7941
Loc: SW USA
I only see H on weekends, too, but we know he does not eat much, drinks beer everynight over there and sits outside the majority of the time. He stays up very late--until about 1-2AM and he used to be the type that needed eight hours of sleep.

Just goes to show how miserable he really is.
_________________________
The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19

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