I was thinking of texting him & not letting him know I got his email. Just thank him for the postage & then give him the phone number & mortgage acct. number, he can call & check & then tell him that as of Sept. 17th he will not be on my auto ins. I'm not sure what to do.

Just thinking. I guess that is too obvious.

if you refinanced and his name is no longer on the docs, then they will only give out info to you.

however you do it, just get right to the point about the insurance/home refin, and you can thank him for the postage and keep it short and simple.

I was going to give him the number of the old acct. where he is on it. He can see that it has been paid for.

Do you think I should call or try to text?

nlt

I know you want to call him. Soooooooo, call!!! That way you can see how he acts to your voice. I don't want you to be hopeful because of him being in MLC and his reaction might not be what you want. IMHO, I would give it a try to see! That way if he has any questions you can answer them right away!

Good luck on the second interview!!!

Y

Nlt,
You have a legitimate reason to contact H. It's too complicated to text all that and you don't want to use that email address because of OW. So go ahead and call him on his cell. Call during work hours when you know OW won't be around. Make sure you also thank him for his thoughtfulness of reimbursing you for the postage. Try to have no expectations of him. Just be pleasant and to the point.
BUT if you can in a very matter of fact way, slip in the fact that you have gone for a couple of interviews and are continuing to look for employment. Only if timing seems right. If H seems to be unresponsive then don't bother.
BTW, good luck with the second interview. I'm praying for you.

As far as calling SIL about the cabinets for BIL, I would especially since you and her are on somewhat friendly terms. Again, you have a specific reason for contacting her. You're not just calling to find out info about H (although she may give you some info).

My heart is really breaking now!!!!!!!!! I did call my SIL & she said her H was aggravated about the cabinets but none of them remember anything anyway. But she said my H married OW on July 19th. I can't stop crying!!!!

That was so quick! He told them when he was here in April that if he ever wanted to get married again to shoot him.

I haven't called him yet, I will but I need to know what to say in case he tells me he got married. I hope I will just get to leave a message.

Help me!!!!!!

If he tells me about the M should I tell him that really upsets me & that he hurt me so bad & that I truely loved him & would have never done anything to hurt him. What does it matter now??

I feel like I need to let him know how I feel or something! I don't know.

I miss my best friend!!!

Oh (((((((((((nlt)))))))))),

I'm so sorry!
This must have really been heartbreaking for you!

I would advise not to call him now, when you're so upset. Not that it matters much, but you will be able to deal with it better if you wait just a little a bit.

I wish I could give you a real (((((HUG))))) now, not a virtual one!
Hold on, hun, you are not alone.

Stella,

I just can't believe it!! This is killing me!!!! I really can't believe it is over with us. I thought sure he would wake up. That OW trapped him for sure! My SIL said her H said he was really nervous at the wedding. Some of the pictures he looked happy some he didn't. At our wedding he wasn't nervous at all & looked happy in all of them.

I just can't believe he would do this so quick!

I sure need that hug right now!!!

nlt,

we all know how long it takes for MLCer to wake up. Now imagine your H waking up married to someone he hardly knows, it's like marrying someone in your sleep! I'm not surprised he looked nervous. The part of him which is still sane must have been sending warning signal.

Here is another ((((((((((HUG)))))))))) for you!