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#1548310 - 08/06/08 02:36 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
yellowrose Offline
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Registered: 04/03/06
Posts: 6042
Loc: texas
((((((((((nlt))))))))))

Sweetie I am so sorry to hear what has happened. You will be okay. Give it time. Take care of you right now. Get those tears out, grieve. Then start the healing process. I too wished I could give you a big hug!!!

It seems like he has rushed everything the last few months doesn't it??? That is MLC for you.

Girlfriend you are in my prayers.

Y

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#1548333 - 08/06/08 03:01 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: yellowrose]
addie Offline
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Registered: 02/05/08
Posts: 1316
((((((Oh Nlt))))))

I am SOOOOOOO sorry to hear what has happened. I have tears in my eyes from your news. Your gut instinct was right when you saw the signature on the email. It has all happened so fast. Your H WILL regret it some day.
Please don't call H right away. Wait a few days when you are a little calmer.
I too wish that I could give you a real hug.
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H46
S13
M16
Piecing since May/09

"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz

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#1548339 - 08/06/08 03:06 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: addie]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
Thank you all so much!! I wish we could be together right now. He has rushed everything! I just can't believe how fast it happened.

When I call him, what should I say if he tells me he is M? I'm not calling now, I can't do anything but cry.

Will he ever figure this out??

My SIL told me that he has figured out that OW doesn't have the money he thought she had but she doesn't think the OW knows he doesn't have any money. SIL thinks they are lying to each other, of course she doesn't know for sure. She also said MIL wasn't too happy about it either.

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#1548403 - 08/06/08 03:45 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
Treese Offline
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Registered: 10/07/07
Posts: 1846
Loc: Ohio
OMG....(((((NLT))))

I am so sorry....that is how I felt when I got the news about H's 1st A and the son it produced....it hits you right in the gut...a huge blow....

Didn't Bob Steinkamp do that....divorce his wife and either moved in or married OW....not sure about the marriage but he went back....so don't give up...if they are lying to each other it won't last long....the lies tend to have a way of coming to the surface.....

I"m praying for you.....

Treese
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Treese

H 49
M 45
D 23, D17, S12
M 25 T 31
01/07 OW H at my door w/proof
Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07
Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass,
Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9
11/08 pos.paternity





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#1548440 - 08/06/08 04:07 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: Treese]
MidwesternGirl Offline
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 7941
Loc: SW USA
No, Bob did not marry ow, he re-married Charlyne.

I am sorry to hear of this nlt. He moved quite hastily with this but you have to get it all out and grieve right now.

I am not so sure I would want to talk to him. I personally would not have it in me to do that.
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The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19

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#1548453 - 08/06/08 04:13 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: MidwesternGirl]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
Thank you!

I'm not sure I want to talk to him either. In a way I do & in a way I don't. My head is hurting so bad right now. I'm just so devasted! Part of me still feels like he is family & I just can't imagine never seeing him again! I just can't believe this. I thought sure I had some positive signs.

How will I let him know about the stuff he emailed me about? I just emailed my attorney to ask if that is something that I have to do.

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#1548455 - 08/06/08 04:15 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
Thank you all for you prayers, I sure need them now more than ever. This is just as hard as it was when he told me he wanted a divorce, maybe even harder.

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#1548545 - 08/06/08 05:26 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
I just got an email back from the paralegal that worked with my attorney & me. Here is what she said about sending him that stuff about the refinance:

no need. let him wonder. If he calls to ask, fine. If not, he assumes you will do what you agreed to, and you did. There is no right or wrong answer here.

They all liked me & couldn't believe what he had done to me. So, I really don't know what to do now.

No wonder he didn't mention my birthday.

This is just so hard. I've been trying to pray & do good. Why do I have to hurt so bad! I didn't do anything wrong here, he is the one who had the A.

Sorry, as you can tell I'm having a rough time!


Edited by nlt (08/06/08 05:26 PM)

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#1548653 - 08/06/08 06:54 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
Treese Offline
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Registered: 10/07/07
Posts: 1846
Loc: Ohio
NLT....I feel so bad for you right now....I'm telling you he is going to end up divorcing her too..watch....

Don't call him....it's not worth the pain....

I understand your hurt and it is so awful....just cry and get it out...scream,,,kick, whatever you have to do....

I'm praying for you....
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Treese

H 49
M 45
D 23, D17, S12
M 25 T 31
01/07 OW H at my door w/proof
Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07
Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass,
Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9
11/08 pos.paternity





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#1548661 - 08/06/08 07:12 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: Treese]
MidwesternGirl Offline
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 7941
Loc: SW USA
Do what the paralegal advises.
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The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19

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