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#1547440 - 08/05/08 11:04 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
sooners7xchamps Offline
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Well PH I pray that you are right.

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#1547445 - 08/05/08 11:08 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
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You have to go with how you feel PH. I have just found that men want to be appreciated and respected period. A nice e-mail thanking your h for bringing the boys by does just that.

I used to think should I do this or that second guess myself, now I just do what's in my heart.

I look at it this way. The e-mail is nothing more than thanking a good friend for spending time with you or whatever the situation. As long as you have no expectations like a return e-mail, phone call, r talk then you are on the right track.

It's simply a thank you, nothing more and nothing less.
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#1547452 - 08/05/08 11:13 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
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Registered: 03/20/07
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Hi Everyone,

I've been posting on the infidelity board. I've been reading about MLC and believe my H is having one. I decided to post over here today. Brandnewday posted the newsletter on my thread. It was awesome and it gave me hope to continue standing for my marriage. I definitely believe it was a sign. They say there are no such things as coincidences, just signs of divine intervention.

I agree that until people have been through what we all have been through they don't know if they would continue to stand or not. In one of my books I read that most couples could possibly restore their marriages, but give up too soon and worry about being a doormat. I want to know in my heart that I have done everything possible to restore my marriage. I don't want to have any regrets or what ifs. Right now I will continue to pray and stand for my marriage.

Yoyo
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#1547465 - 08/05/08 11:22 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: glamgirl]
plentyhope Offline
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Registered: 07/29/06
Posts: 3455
Originally Posted By: glamgirl
You have to go with how you feel PH. I have just found that men want to be appreciated and respected period. A nice e-mail thanking your h for bringing the boys by does just that.

I used to think should I do this or that second guess myself, now I just do what's in my heart.

I look at it this way. The e-mail is nothing more than thanking a good friend for spending time with you or whatever the situation. As long as you have no expectations like a return e-mail, phone call, r talk then you are on the right track.

It's simply a thank you, nothing more and nothing less.
glam,
I hear you about men needing appreciation and respect. That's why I have been doing it. My H would say that he knew I missed him because I sent him cards and email. This is why I have eben careful about not sending any lately, especially after his "moving on" speech. I wonder if he feels pressure from the cards/email. He knows I know words of affirmation are his second LL. His 1st is touch. When I tried to rub his shoulder when he walked in that evening of his speech, he shrank away, and didn't want me to touch him. It's as if he thinks I am manipulating him through his LL or maybe he didn't trust himself to not get carried away to intimacy.

Thanks for the suggestion. I will think about it a bit more.
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#1547472 - 08/05/08 11:26 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: Yoyowife]
plentyhope Offline
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Registered: 07/29/06
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Originally Posted By: Yoyowife
Brandnewday posted the newsletter on my thread. It was awesome and it gave me hope to continue standing for my marriage. I definitely believe it was a sign. They say there are no such things as coincidences, just signs of divine intervention.

I agree that until people have been through what we all have been through they don't know if they would continue to stand or not. In one of my books I read that most couples could possibly restore their marriages, but give up too soon and worry about being a doormat. I want to know in my heart that I have done everything possible to restore my marriage. I don't want to have any regrets or what ifs. Right now I will continue to pray and stand for my marriage.
Hi yoyo,
Yes, me too - I don't believe in coicidences either. In Feb 2007, I believe God spoke to me through someone mentioning Charlyne Cares to me. This was after the verse "Be still and know that I am God" came into my mind while I was pleading with God about my M.

I too from Day 1 feel that I want to do all in my power to save my M so that I am at peace, even if things never worked out. At least I know I have tried my best and obeyed God in standing.
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