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#1543979 - 08/03/08 04:59 AM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: smartcookie]
StrgMarvelousWmn Offline
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SC--

I know that the tiptoeing is going to take time to get around. I am just glad that we have come this far already. I am thinking that my prayers and changes are making him really think and that is why he was having a hard time sleeping. I wanted to give him a kiss on the pier, but was too afraid to initiate it, even though it felt right. I hate second guessing myself all the time!

SMW
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#1543983 - 08/03/08 05:10 AM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: StrgMarvelousWmn]
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SMW...

WOW!!! Um how wonderful for you. Congrats on H getting the promotion that's awesome. You have him really thinkin about things, his reference to HOME is great. You did so good on just making it comfortable for him to be there.

It's so nice when it can just be what it is just 'life' no pressure no expectations just calm. There will always be the shoulda woulda moments don't fret they will work out. One day at a time is all anybody can do.

I am just warm and fuzzie after reading your post.

Stay your path...

Brian
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#1543987 - 08/03/08 05:14 AM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: Racefan]
StrgMarvelousWmn Offline
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Bri---

UUUHHMMMM I have been "warm and fuzzy" since I got hugged on Thursday! SIGH!!!!

Thanks for the kudos! One day at a time is right and I will be honest, I have stepped up the prayers, too. I know God is working and I need to do all I can, too, to ensure that my changes are sticking, for me as well as my M.

SMW


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#1543991 - 08/03/08 05:22 AM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: StrgMarvelousWmn]
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Congratulations to both you and your H! I'm so happy to hear all your good news. I know that your supportive email made a big difference to your H. He heard you loud and clear, and he sees how a supportive wife helps his career. Things are definitely looking up!

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#1544044 - 08/03/08 09:30 AM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: Sara]
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(((((SMW))))),

what a great day you've had with H!!!
Happy for you!

((((HUG))))
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#1544056 - 08/03/08 11:03 AM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: stella_k]
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SMV-
I so very happy for you!!! Look at how quickly things have changed, since your attitude has changed. You are a great example of what it means to detach!!!! I'm so proud of you!

Now remember.............don't force it or rush it. Give him the loving space to figure his stuff out. Do NOT get impatient.... you are doing great! Keep it up....
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#1544092 - 08/03/08 12:57 PM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: Neilh23]
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Registered: 01/20/08
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Way to go SMW!!!

You are so strong and positive and a wife anyone/everyone would love to have... I am happy for you,
Keep it up and stay strong..
Love
K

(I think I may be taking your H off of my list soon)
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#1544227 - 08/03/08 04:23 PM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: Kalni]
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I'm so happy for you that the weekend went so well! You did great! Congrats. on the promotion...you deserve it (worked as hard for it) as much as he does!
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#1544232 - 08/03/08 04:43 PM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: Amy M]
StrgMarvelousWmn Offline
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Loc: Virginia
{{{{{Stella, Neil, K-Hon, and Amy}}}}}

Thanks guys! I am still floating a bit. Had a friend at church come up to me today. He was in choir with H and I when we lived here before and is a retired Chief. Said he saw H made Chief and told me to have H bring him his Charge book and he will sign it. I have not made our sitch common knowledge, but H is, obviously, never in church with the kids and I. H and F got along well and I will pass on the message.

Stella--It was a great couple of days and I am glad to have had them right now. I see it as one more blessing from God and I can never thank him enough. I must simply spread the word of His grace and glory.

Neil-- No expectations and way more patience than I thought I was capable of! Since I did not even hope to be this far by now, I know I am truly blessed. I am continuing to pray for myself to grow past my many faults as well as praying for H to find his way back to our Holy Father. I know that these combined will bring about restoration in my marriage.

Kalni-- Thank you for this:
Quote:
You are so strong and positive and a wife anyone/everyone would love to have... I am happy for you,
Keep it up and stay strong..


and what do you mean by this:
Quote:

(I think I may be taking your H off of my list soon)

?????????????????

Amy--H did the work, I was just the support system that held up the fort while he fought the battles. They do say beig a Navy Wife is the toughest job in the Navy. I have a little sign hanging by my desk that I will start my next thread with.

Thanks again everyone!

SMW
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#1544237 - 08/03/08 04:55 PM Re: I Always Admired the Cut of his Jib [Re: StrgMarvelousWmn]
StrgMarvelousWmn Offline
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Registered: 04/02/08
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Loc: Virginia
New thread started:

Why Did She Marry a Sailor

SG--go ahead and lock this one up!

SMW
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