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#1548698 - 08/06/08 07:43 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: MidwesternGirl]
addie Offline
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Registered: 02/05/08
Posts: 1316
Nlt,
It's probably best not to call H at all. I feel so badly for you. Let it out. Take time to grieve. I'm sure you feel as bad if not worse than after the initial bomb.
That M is based on nothing but deception. Under the circumstances how solid can it be?
You are in my prayers.
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#1548727 - 08/06/08 08:03 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
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Registered: 12/29/05
Posts: 3334
Hi nlt,
Sweety, I am so sorry and I can just imagine how you feel. You are in my thoughts and I would like to give you a big hug. (((HUGS)))



Edited by Truelove (08/06/08 08:04 PM)

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#1548738 - 08/06/08 08:11 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: Truelove]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
Thank you all so much!!! Yes you are right, this is worse than the initial bomb!

I have a feeling this email was sent & it was his way of telling me he got married. I'm not sure about that but he knows that I paid for my own insurance in March for the SUV.

I'm not going to contact him at all. In his next alimony check he will probably send me a copy of that email, that is the way he did when he ask for the remote & the stimulus check, he thought I didn't get the email so he sent a copy.

I'm absolutely devastated right now! I still don't think the M will last but for him to jump right in so quickly. How can he not be thinking about me after us spending so many years together. I just don't understand, how can he just turn his love off for me & give it to her???

Thank you for all your hugs & prayers, I sure do need them right now. I think this has hit me harder than I expected. I really didn't think they would marry, especially this quick.

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#1548844 - 08/06/08 09:42 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
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Registered: 02/25/08
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As much as he loved me, why does he want to hurt me so bad?? And continue to hurt me. I'm sure he knew this would devastate me, how could he not know.

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#1548910 - 08/06/08 10:33 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
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Registered: 04/03/06
Posts: 6042
Loc: texas
nlt

Right now it is all about him. He doesn't care abgout anything right now. Deep down he knows that it is all wrong but it hasn't hit his brain yet!

Do as your L said and let him guess about all the things that he asked. Just let it go and find some peace for you right now. You need a break from all the worry and wondering. Give it back to God and let him steer you in the direction you need to be in.

Many (((((hugs)))) and ((((prayers)))))

Y

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#1548918 - 08/06/08 10:40 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: happynow]
plentyhope Offline
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Registered: 07/29/06
Posts: 3455
Quote:
My SIL said her H said he was really nervous at the wedding. Some of the pictures he looked happy some he didn't. At our wedding he wasn't nervous at all & looked happy in all of them.

I just can't believe he would do this so quick!
nlt,

So sorry that this happened. I think what your SIL said says alot. I don't think he's happy. It is way too quick. He might very well have gone through it because of pressure from OW. He will soon realize that he made the wrong decision/move in marrying her.
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#1548926 - 08/06/08 10:46 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: yellowrose]
plentyhope Offline
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Registered: 07/29/06
Posts: 3455
Originally Posted By: yellowrose
Right now it is all about him. He doesn't care abgout anything right now. Deep down he knows that it is all wrong but it hasn't hit his brain yet!

Do as your L said and let him guess about all the things that he asked. Just let it go and find some peace for you right now. You need a break from all the worry and wondering. Give it back to God and let him steer you in the direction you need to be in.
nlt,
I agree with YR. It's really all about him. He's not doing this to hurt you. Hurting you is a side effect of what he has decided to do for himself. And sinc etheir M is based on a foundation of lies, that's not much of a foundation. I can't see it lasting for them. ((((nlt))))
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#1548971 - 08/06/08 11:27 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: plentyhope]
happynow Offline
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Registered: 02/25/08
Posts: 2099
Thank you all for you support, hugs & prayers. I've just cried all night, my eyes are so swollen!

I just can't believe this has happened. I believe it is worse than when he told me he wanted a divorce. I guess then I could have some hope but now nothing.

I can't see it lasting either. From what my SIL said her H went to the wedding & my H's OW had a basket in his hotel room for him & just treated him all fancy. But she was bragging about how little she spent on the wedding b/c she got everything at Goodwill & the Salvation Army.

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#1548994 - 08/06/08 11:45 PM Re: My Heart is Breaking #6 [Re: yellowrose]
MidwesternGirl Offline
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 7941
Loc: SW USA
Yes, do give it back to God.

It is wrong what he did to you and he knows he was/is wrong to do this but only God can change his heart.
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The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19

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