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#1535428 - 07/28/08 11:18 AM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: glamgirl]
plentyhope Offline
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Originally Posted By: glamgirl
PH you have to forget about a move home at this time. Your h is not ready. I know how it hurts. I remember awhile back my h said he signed another 6 month lease. I was so hurt and angry at the same time. He even said I know you will be angry. I told him he could break the lease.

I am sure he knows that, but it's not what he wants to do, so after that conversation last year I just let it all go. He will need to decide when to come home. Now I still encourage him to come home, but no movement in that direction yet.

Just keep praying PH as to what God wants for your life. I will be praying for my h today, he has a job interview. I hope he gets this job. He needs that for his dignity and self esteem.
glam,
Thanks for checking in. I really need it today. I think the Enemy is attacking me today. I can't concentrate at work.

I am praying that God shows my H what a mistake he's making. I know that nothing is too hard for God. It's strange, I asked God to show me how to pray this morning and then opened the Bible to the Psalms, and found Psalm 55, and a few following it. The Psalms helped me pray for God to protect me from the Enemy's attacks.

I woke up earlier than I wanted to, feeling tired and ready to pray for my H. My brain sure is foggy today, too.

I hope your H gets the job too. It will be great for him to get one, for the reasons you mentioned.
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#1535441 - 07/28/08 11:27 AM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
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Thanks PH. The enemy is on attack when we least expect it. I know I was being attacked last week for sure. That was when I was questioning h and lashing out back to him.

I can see it was the enemy so clearly now. There are some great scriptures when the enemy attacks. I have to remember to pray often especially when I am being attacked.

I just call out to God to help me at that moment. It usually works. Sometimes I have to call out the majority of the day, but it works.

Off to the gym to pray. I walk the gym track and all I do is think and pray. Right now this seems to work for me. I was also breaking bread and drinking wine (aka sparkling juice) with the kids and praying in the evening with communion. I need to start this again. Helped me be very close to God. My vision was clearer then.

Keep praying PH and will pray for you today as well!
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Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"

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#1535444 - 07/28/08 11:32 AM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: glamgirl]
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glam,
Thanks for encouraging, and for praying. The Enemy sure knows when and how to attack us.
-PH
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#1535522 - 07/28/08 12:43 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
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Hi PH,

You are so right! The enemy knows how & when for sure!!!!

I also need to get started with the Flylady!!

I'm sorry you are having a hard day, I do know what you mean. I can't quit thinking about H today. Everyday I think about him but I still just keep praying!

You hang in there, we are here for you!!!!

(((HUGS)))

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#1535528 - 07/28/08 12:48 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: happynow]
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PH:

Try not to put so much emphasis on R talks. We really do not know if that is what he was calling about. If it was of importance, he would have left a message.

Right now, he seems confused. I think the best thing right now is to be still and continue praying.

Glam: I hope your H gets the job.

nlt: Keep focusing on your life and prayer right now. It can eat you up thinking about what your H is doing, etc. I know it is difficult but you will be able to do this in time.
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H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
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#1535605 - 07/28/08 01:42 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: happynow]
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nlt,
Yes, you should start with the Flylady. I think you'll love it. I wish I have more time to spend on it.

Thanks for your hugs, sweet words, and for being here for me. I think we all need one another.

Yes, you keep praying. I think God is testing our faith and trust in Him.

You'll love this - our dog just came up to my elbow and sniffed and licked it, as if asking for attention or just being loving to me. I patted her and she was happy and walked away.
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#1535613 - 07/28/08 01:46 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: MidwesternGirl]
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Try not to put so much emphasis on R talks. We really do not know if that is what he was calling about. If it was of importance, he would have left a message.

Right now, he seems confused. I think the best thing right now is to be still and continue praying.
Steelers,
You're probably right about not putting the emphasis on the R talk or calls. It was probably about visiting with the boys. They went to a place on Sunday where we went together. We have great memories from going there. So I bet he was reminiscing and thinking about me in deciding to go there and while they were there. I think it might be a good thing that they went there yesterday.

I think he's still confused (even after 2 years). I will be still and continue the praying.
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#1535645 - 07/28/08 02:07 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
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NLT check out flylady. I like the concept and will follow some advice. I will go there to stay encouraged. I have upstairs and downstairs house and front yard and back. This week I am going to focus on downstairs and front yard.

My goal is to have it very clean by Saturday night. Let me see how much I can handle this week.

PH your h is still confused. Keep praying. You can bet he was thinking of you yesterday. I know that h and I reminisce about the past and I know he has to have some good feelings and thoughts about our past life. How could he not.

I hope your h contacts you again soon.
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Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"

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#1535669 - 07/28/08 02:14 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: glamgirl]
plentyhope Offline
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Originally Posted By: glamgirl
NLT check out flylady. I like the concept and will follow some advice. I will go there to stay encouraged. I have upstairs and downstairs house and front yard and back. This week I am going to focus on downstairs and front yard.
glam, I have the same house layout as you do. I thought I'd follow this week's bless the house hour, starting tomorrow. I am really enjoying my shiny sink.

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My goal is to have it very clean by Saturday night. Let me see how much I can handle this week.
Cool, we can help motivate each other.

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PH your h is still confused. Keep praying. You can bet he was thinking of you yesterday. I know that h and I reminisce about the past and I know he has to have some good feelings and thoughts about our past life. How could he not.

I hope your h contacts you again soon.
Thanks, glam. How could I have done without you, Steelers and nlt today? I am always thankful for the support I get here. And thanks so much for Flylady. I really think God sent her to me, through you. It's about time that I get my house in order and have the "finally love you" attitude for myself, in practical/effective ways.
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#1535806 - 07/28/08 03:25 PM Re: Letting God Take Control Part 14 [Re: plentyhope]
glamgirl Offline
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Ok so I went to the gym and was praying that God would send me a sign that my M would be restored. Big request I know. I just kept praying and walking and asking God for some help today.

I am getting dressed for work and the last thing I put on are my wedding rings. I take them off at night. All of a sudden it hit me. Last night I had a dream about h wearing his ring again. It wasn't until I put mine on that I remembered the dream.

My body just started to shake and I was overwhelmed with tears of joy, sadness I don't know. God has spoke to me before in dreams and I pray and hope that he was speaking to me again last night.

I don't know am I delusional or could this be my sign I so desperately need right now?
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Me 50
H 42
S 22
S 9
D 7
M 12
T 17
H moved out 8/2006
H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks
H moved home 5/2011 for good

"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"

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