FIB I don't think I have posted to you before, but your W can still love you. It may just be a different kind of love.
Realize that you are not dealing with any rational human being right now. So for you to have a discussion with her about comments from daughter you couldn't expect anything less than the outcome that happened.
I wouldn't be having any conversations wtih her right now. Go see the movie "Fireproof" when it comes out in September and you might just change your whole perspective on your M.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
The view I have here is that you are going to agonize over this. You are going to torment yourself, until you are sure you did everything in your power, that your choices were correct. You might even rip apart your own self esteem.
You might not even get to the idea that you made the right choices if you do not allow it...flagellation can be self inflicted.
The scary thought I just had...
Is that you don't allow yourself to stop.
I understand the process, I went through it, just not to your extent.
God I hope that isn't the case FIB.
Burn out your questions and doubt. Get the answers or get rid of the questions, but have no regrets. You are above and beyond reproach here... But it doesn't matter unless you know that. It doesn't matter who tells that to you unless you believe it.
My prayers are that you trust in yourself. And believe in your choices.
One day this will all be a memory you occasionally dust off and examine. Your children will be grown, hale and healthy. Someone will squeeze your hand and you will be happy with your choices and whom you made your life with.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
At least your w is still at home unlike the rest of us who must DB from a distance.
That doesn't make it easier, or harder, just different. Be careful what you wish for.
Um, I will second that! Living with a person who doesn't want you in their life is excrutiating pain too. You never get a break from it. You have to put on the Act As If 24/7.
glam, we could probably all agree that as we look back on the past there is something we would have done differently to try and affect the future we are now in. Fact is we can't change the past, we can only live now the best way we know how.
FIB, I remember many drives to work that I was crying and shaking from a bad interaction with H. I am sorry that you are still living it, and your W drags the kids into the middle of it.
Maybe you just don't post about it anymore, but it does seem that your W has grown up in someways and is better about being with the kids instead of feeling angry that she has to take time to be their mother. Would that be true? that she has made a bit of a change that way?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.