Kissak,

That is sooo awesome! Having a good party like that really boosts the mood, doesn't it? I liked doing them as I got the hang of it. I don't like the attention on me and it makes me nervous, but once you're there it's not so bad. It actually gave me a boost of confidence with each party! So glad to hear that you had a great party!

Ugh! I hate this. My H calls to see if he could get the kids a couple of hours. I thought, great! He is actually taking interest in wanting to see them...then he says, well, you probably wont like this, but I was going to take them to the OW's house while i did laundry and let them swim.

How would he be spending time with them then? Nope, they would swim while he sat outside talking to the OW. No time with them.

Well, it may have been wrong and selfish of me, but I said if he was going to take them there, no. He could come get them and see them, but not if they were going there. They arent even together. She is so mommying him. Letting him wash his clothes there and all that. He just makes me sooo mad!

It was probably wrong of me, but I cant control where they go on his time, but this is my time and if I have the choice, they wont go there.

Go ahead, hit me.

I'm not going to hit you cuz I'd be pissed too. He wasn't going to spend time with them if he was doing his laundry.

Exactly! Actually I didnt know he was off today until I saw him this morning on my way to work. I passed him on MY road going to the OW's apartment. So, he knew I saw him. If he thought I didnt know he was off, I guareente you that he would have never let me know. He wouldnt have gotten the kids either. That was for my benefit only. My son talked to him on the phone and said he wanted to spend the night with him. Guess what he said?

I'll think about it. THen he told me he didnt want me to think that he didnt want them to stay by saying that, he just werent sure.

Hello? If I never hardly ever saw my kids and they wanted to stay with me....I dont think I would have to think about it for a second!

Just ticks me off is all.....so right now he is doing his laundry first, so I guess he can come get the kids for a while. I dont know if they are staying or not.

Its just my choice what they do on my time....Im not going to purposely let them go over there.

And he knows that.

He told me he just werent having a good week. Said it was people, life and work. He is looking a part time job to help him with the bills.

Dont wanna hear it.

All hes gotta do is grow up.

Is there a reason why he wouldn't/couldn't do his laundry at your place and he could spend time with the kids there? you wouldn't have to stay if you'd be okay with that. Or is it better not to open that option?

What is it with laundry anyway??!! I don't have a clue where my H does his laundry or if he drops it off somewhere or at a cleaners. One time I noticed creases in his jeans, come on!! starched shirts next? looks great with dirt and sweat!

Did you get the book yet?

Hey, No I havent got the book yet. I should have it anyday though.

I thought about offering him to use my washer/dryer, but I have offered in the past and when he has to choose between using mine or hers, in the past he chooses hers. So, I quit offering. I dont offer much of any help anymore. He doesnt want it. He usually just thanks me for the offer.

He use to do it at the laundrymat some, but he is broke so cant even afford to wash his clothes.

I think this OW is going to be around for a long time. She likes to baby my H too much. ITs stupid.

They did, but she mothers him.

Kissak,

Nah. No hits. Might break a nail. How would that be good?

Of course you hate it. He should spend more quality time with the kids. That being said by telling him no you denied the kids time with their daddy. Being that it is your time with them you obviously have the right to say no. I faced that many times. I often allowed the kid to go with his father because I truly had nothing more exciting planned and imho I feel that some contact with the absent parent is better than none at all. No matter what goes on with you and your H, he is still and will always be their father. Please stop expecting him to act or react like you do. Even if he wasn't NuTbAr, everyone acts differently in situations.

And please don't open your house to him to do laundry. Your house is your space. Your refuge. Keep it that way.

Hopefully the book will show up today, girl. Gah. Dang postal service.

Congrats on the awesome TW party. Sounds like you are truly enjoying it. Did you ever get an internet storefront set up?

*hugs*
~ swl

STUPID DAM!!!