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#1546872 - 08/05/08 02:50 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: Maya44]
WCW Offline
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dar, you're already at the library. Check it out. It's a good read but not necessarily agreeing with DB. I found it to be a good source of strength but as always, what works for one doesn't work for another.
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#1546880 - 08/05/08 02:54 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: WCW]
Maya44 Offline
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Registered: 08/01/07
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Already on it WCW. \:\) Just trying to make small talk and see how Kissak is doing today. \:\)

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#1546927 - 08/05/08 03:55 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: WCW]
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Registered: 03/20/07
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Originally Posted By: WCW
dar, you're already at the library. Check it out. It's a good read but not necessarily agreeing with DB. I found it to be a good source of strength but as always, what works for one doesn't work for another.


WCW,
I have read Dobson's Tough Love also and agree it isn't very DBing friendly. What is your take on it? Do you think while in MLC a WAS would respond to his techniques?
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#1546942 - 08/05/08 04:05 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: Yoyowife]
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Registered: 12/31/06
Posts: 3525
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WEll, Im only about 30 pages into it. All it has talked about so far is different peoples situations. HOw hard it is for us that are left behind and how our first instincts are to do what most of us did...beg, cry, plead, etc. It is all a normal reaction, but it is the very thing that will most times, push them away...that we have all seen and learned not to do...Im not really looking for a remedy on my sitch...just looking for any healing it may offer me.

There is no fix for my sitch...H has been very quiet today. Not in a talking mood I guess. Said he will be here to get the kids at 5....I feel like he is divorce busting me!

Anyway, i will have a few hours to myself again tonight.
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"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10

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#1546944 - 08/05/08 04:06 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: kissak]
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Registered: 12/31/06
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Thanks Dar...Im doing better than I was....feeling stressed a bit earlier today. But Im doing.....btw, get the book.
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Kissak

"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10

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#1547009 - 08/05/08 04:49 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: kissak]
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Registered: 12/31/06
Posts: 3525
Loc: USA
OMG!! I am so in shock!

My H resigned his top position at the Ems/fire!!

OMG! He has to find a second job! That is why he has been stressed...or one of the reasons. He just asked if I would watch the kids for him saturday to work.

OK, how do I handle this...this is his time. His weekend. He is working. We always said that we wouldnt watch our kids for pleasure...work only...but if he is going to work alot when he has the kids...thats not fair for the kids, but he needs to survive.
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Kissak

"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10

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#1547048 - 08/05/08 05:19 PM Re: Just Living My Life! [Re: kissak]
shewholurks Offline
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Registered: 11/12/01
Posts: 749
Loc: Wasilla, Alaska
No. It's not fair for the kids but if you don't watch them when it is his time with the kids who will? He will then be forced to find someone else to do so. Who would you rather watch them? Yourself or someone else?

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being flexible. You know my X works fire. His schedule during the season is unpredictable at best. What is to be gained by forcing him to make a choice if he has to work?

~ swl

p.s. glad you got the book. I think you will find it helpful in learning to respect yourself while during this most difficult time.
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