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#1520443 - 07/16/08 04:01 AM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
ACJ Offline
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Registered: 12/28/05
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Loc: England
Which is why it is so sad that they won't seek help and more frustratingly won't allow the LBS to show love and give help/support.

Myabe I'm just a delusional fixer. I really don't know who my H is anymore and I'm not sure I recognise me either.
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Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15

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#1520624 - 07/16/08 09:20 AM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: ACJ]
TRUSTING Offline
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Registered: 11/03/07
Posts: 2549
ACJ,

It sounds like you are struggling more than usual. What is going on in your sitch?
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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#1521582 - 07/16/08 07:38 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
cagzmom Offline
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Registered: 08/21/07
Posts: 1666
Loc: NC
I thought the same the ACJ- whats going on? And if it makes you feel any better I too was a fixer. And my stbx doesn't want me to fix him either...

Trusting that was a great post about Depression in MLC. Where are you getting your stuff?
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M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06
Moved out 3/12/07
D final 7/30/2008
finding myself again



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#1521639 - 07/16/08 08:31 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: cagzmom]
TRUSTING Offline
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Registered: 11/03/07
Posts: 2549
Cagz,

Much research, experience with my Ml'er, and colleages in the mental health field.

Oh yeah, and everyone on this board...


Edited by TRUSTING (07/16/08 08:32 PM)
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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#1521643 - 07/16/08 08:36 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
MissH Offline
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Registered: 10/09/06
Posts: 5375
Loc: NY
Trusting,

Back when my H's MLC started he was having trouble "getting it up." I kept urging him to go to the Dr. since I didn't think an otherwise healthy 30 year old should be having trouble in that department.

Even when we were having sex he couldn't finish.

Now I don't know if that was because of depression or his heart was already somewhere else (ow) or if he already started the PA with her.

Maybe all 3?

It's also hard not to take it personally.
_________________________
Me:35, ex: 36
Sons: 9 & 7
Bomb: July, 2006
Divorced 2009

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#1521712 - 07/16/08 10:08 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: MissH]
TRUSTING Offline
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Registered: 11/03/07
Posts: 2549
Mrs. H,

Many have this problem. Your H and my ex sound so much like twins...
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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#1521723 - 07/16/08 10:22 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
MissH Offline
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Registered: 10/09/06
Posts: 5375
Loc: NY
Quote:
Your H and my ex sound so much like twins...
GULP! Gee, for your sake I hope not!
_________________________
Me:35, ex: 36
Sons: 9 & 7
Bomb: July, 2006
Divorced 2009

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#1521731 - 07/16/08 10:28 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: MissH]
TRUSTING Offline
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Registered: 11/03/07
Posts: 2549
How are your sons Mrs. H....
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Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11


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#1521756 - 07/16/08 10:45 PM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: TRUSTING]
MissH Offline
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Registered: 10/09/06
Posts: 5375
Loc: NY
There good, thanks for asking.

They love when Wednesdays come because that means they get to see their father. As much as he is a jerk to me, he is good to the kids. He may act like a Disney Dad, but nevertheless he is good to them.

The county fair is in town so tomorrow evening I will probably take them to that.

How are your children?
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Me:35, ex: 36
Sons: 9 & 7
Bomb: July, 2006
Divorced 2009

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#1521883 - 07/17/08 12:26 AM Re: SIGNS OF DEPRESSION 3 cont..... [Re: MissH]
MidwesternGirl Offline
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Registered: 01/16/06
Posts: 7941
Loc: SW USA
Trusting:

I also think the heavy drinking they resort to while in the midst of this does a pretty good job of this type of dysfunction as well.
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The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19

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